Family member wants presents for all the children

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I have a family member that has 6 children. Every year she expects that she will buy for my 3 and I will buy for her 6. We have tried in the last few years to stop this but she is refuses.
We have suggested that we take the kids out for a special day near Christmas and make it a tradition to do this, or else but one larger family present.

The budget is about €10/15 per child. As they are getting older it is much more difficult to buy anything decent for this amount so I end up spending more. Every year we end up receiving and buying plastic tat for the children. Its a waste of money and so bad for the planet.
She is very much into Christmas and birthdays and thinks its very important to buy each child a present. I honestly cant think of a single present for them as they are just into computer games. They dont read, play board games, sports, etc.
I am at a loss, does anyone have any suggestions please?

I dont want to offend her, she is already pi**ed as us for forgetting one of her kids birthdays earlier this year so dont want to rock the boat anymore.

I vote yabu, like YABU to put up with this shite. Just say no.

Boots 3 for 2, keep them all under £10

£10 gift card.

As my parents said to me MANY times growing up, "I want, never gets".

If you want to stop dead, then do that, but if you've got the resources to wind it down more gradually, then great. Like others have said, a tenner in a card to each kid this year, a cheapo selection box next year, then done.

Let her be mad, she'll get over it.

how old are they? you say they're getting older so hard to buy for, then talk about six sad little faces. Who's kids aren't into anything but computer games? If it's your can you suggest a family games and then play with the kids so they aren't just on their computers all Xmas?

Tell her you’re time poor this year and give her the cash equivalent she spends on yours to buy something for hers.
She’ll probably have change if she buys them the same plastic tat!

How about something like a hamper for all to share

eg cinema hamper - cinema tickets voucher, sweets popcorn etc

ice cream sundae hamper - sundae dishes, toppings. Sauces, marshmallows ( could even buy ice cream en route if you’re opening presents on arrival!!! )

crepe hamper - crepe maker, sauces marshmallows, Nutella fruit etc

Yep cinema tickets in a card. Every year, make it a tradition.

How about a dinghy and a one way ticket to Calais for a sense of perspective? Fun family game to get themselves back with just the dinghy.

Give the kids cash and her a packet of condoms

You can't afford it. End of.

Just stop.

Give them each a small gift card or fiver/tenner in a gift card.

Cinema token is a great idea.

If she spends £45 on yours then you spend the same back.

So a selection box with a fiver stuck on for each. Maybe a family game to make it bigger?

Money in a card, attached to selection box.

Or just the selection box!

How about buying each child one gift- from you and parents? Put your money together to buy sth better?

there is a cost of living crisis.
change it to £5 or £10 per person.

Just get them a voucher that can be used to buy a computer game .. or give them cash that they can spend if they are out with their friends

So this means you spend double right? I bet she wouldn't do the same if the roles were reveresed. Honesty just stop, she's beyond rude. If you must, buy second hand

Assuming I could afford to I would give a tenner in a card to each one. Or as an alternative give her £60 and she can choose present(s) for them if that's what she really wants.

If I had 6 kids I would feel really guilty about people having to buy for all of them. But if my sister/in law had 6 kids I still definitely would.

To this day my adult DS gets excited about a big Toblerone!

Would they like their names in the next Mars Rover? It's free and you get a certificate! We've done it for everyone! But then we love stuff like that!

My friend had 3 DC and I've got 1. It used to cost me a fortune getting her DC gifts they wanted. Then one year she bought my DS a tin of sweets and even though I do not give to receive that ended it for me.

I'm sure they are lovely children. But 6 is alot to buy for.

She can't refuse OP, it is quite literally up to you.

If she feels that strongly that all her kid get a present then I'm sure she can facilitate that herself, and does. I would just be sending a message to say that I'd prefer not to exchange gifts for the DC anymore as it feels excessive, and would prefer not to receive any either because we have enough at home and get plenty at christmas etc etc but will pop round and visit as per (with some cheap sweet treats for the kids if you feel like it).

If not as others have said, £10 in a card- but I would still be saying this is the last year and that my own DC don't need anything.

Logo has a new version out this year. Teenagers are big consumers of marketing so I can't se how they wouldn't love it.
My sister use to pull this shit. Now I buy for her grandchildren. I don't have any yet. I am lucky to get a card.
I have just told my sil and a friend I am not buying for their young adults this year. They all work and have money. The friend is a cheeky cow anyway, last to the bar!

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Money in a card or box of chocolates each.

Despite what your sister thinks the kids are guaranteed to be happy as larry!

Or just don't buy them gifts, or do a gift for the whole family as you suggested. I wouldn't be tiptoeing around her. She can do one.