Family member wants presents for all the children

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I have a family member that has 6 children. Every year she expects that she will buy for my 3 and I will buy for her 6. We have tried in the last few years to stop this but she is refuses.
We have suggested that we take the kids out for a special day near Christmas and make it a tradition to do this, or else but one larger family present.

The budget is about €10/15 per child. As they are getting older it is much more difficult to buy anything decent for this amount so I end up spending more. Every year we end up receiving and buying plastic tat for the children. Its a waste of money and so bad for the planet.
She is very much into Christmas and birthdays and thinks its very important to buy each child a present. I honestly cant think of a single present for them as they are just into computer games. They dont read, play board games, sports, etc.
I am at a loss, does anyone have any suggestions please?

I dont want to offend her, she is already pi**ed as us for forgetting one of her kids birthdays earlier this year so dont want to rock the boat anymore.

Nintendo, PlayStation, Roblox etc etc vouchers

My sister gets Amazon vouchers for my kids. Always spent. Dead easy.

£10 Nintendo/Xbox/PlayStation vouchers in cards. Job done.

Get them a big Toblerone each. They’re about £3.50 in Home Bargains. Seriously. They will LOVE a big Toblerone far more than any plastic tat.

Tub of sweets
Money in a card
Amazon gift card
Big selection box

They sell X box vouchers etc in Tesco, it’s quite literally the easiest present.

I buy them for my DS’s friends birthday presents now.

In your situation I’d be tempted to buy one big gift between the family. Maybe a sweetie hamper. Debenhams (when they still had a physical shop) used to sell big jars of sweeties, including big jars of retro sweeties.

It’s up to you what you buy, it’s not for her to tell you!

Big Toblerone is an excellent suggestion. My kids think it's an item of awe and wonder. Not sure if it's the size or the shape ........

The people who have suggested board game or books tokens when OP says in her original post the children do not play board games or read books.

That’s not petty - it’s sensible. Why should OP be shorter of money because her sister decides to overpopulate the planet only to let her kids play on videogames all day.

Tenner each in a card. It’s so pointless buying them stuff they might not like. Kids really do love cash. I do Amazon vouchers for my cousins’ 7 dc (2 cousins). At least they can then get something they want. I don’t have dc so it isn’t even, but I don’t mind it, i can afford it, plus they get the same for birthdays.

I'd enjoy buying fun little things for them. Or a game to share - surely they can't all be into gaming all day?

A tenner in a card is miserable at xmas.

I think your being unfair she buys for yours so why wouldn't you buy for all hers. There's plenty of options out there such a gift cards. If a sibling and more dc than me I wouldn't give it a thought.

Are any of them your godchildren? Could you say that this year you are buying for godchildren only??

I would definitely go with the cinema voucher. Someone did this for my boys last year and they loved it. Either that or consumables if you are worried about plastic tat. Bath bombs, selection boxes, crayons, play doh etc things that will be used and helps stick to the budget as well.

A tenner in a card is miserable at xmas

Id have to disagree. I used to get money from both Sets of Grandparents for Christmas and Birthdays (Birthday quite close to Christmas) and used to love it when mum would take us shopping to spend it.

My own dc were the same when they were given money.

Id rather someone get to choose what they actually want rather than trying to find something you think they might like which is so easy to get wrong.

Amazon vouchers. Easy

A tenner in a card is miserable at xmas
DS would have been happier with a tenner or a big Toblerone than a £10 toy.

If you want to do an experience then print out home made vouchers and wrap those individually. Then they unwrap something but it’s your day out.

You are being very unreasonable - you buy for the kids - simple.

I spent over 20 years buying presents for all 9 of my nieces and nephews - then they all became adults and when I had one child my sister stopped buying when my DC was 2 - as far as I’m concerned she can rot in hell for that - so if you want to destroy the relationship with your sister keep being a tight fisted grinch.

Cash or a voucher is my vote.

Yes These we’re only ever given at Christmas when both I and my dcs were young, so was regarded as something special!

£10 gift card and a £1 bag of Haribo. It will probably be the kids favourite present

A shoe box/gift box/bag with a £10 voucher and a couple of sweet treats. HMV is good for gaming merchandise. Boots for smellies.
Wrap each item individually.

We have 1 DC. 6 nieces and nephews on DH’s side. We stopped buying gifts for them about 6 years ago when we realised they hadn’t given DD so much as an ice cream or colouring book since she was 2 and we’d been spending on thoughtful gifts for theirs (the 6 children are split across 3 families).

Just one very young nephew on my side and we buy him token gifts as my sister is pretty thoughtful when it comes to DD.

It’s about intention rather than cost.

And Xmas is a load of old sh1t anyway.

Either just tell her you can't afford to do this anymore so it is stopping or just put whatever money you are willing to give into an envelope for each of her children.

If she kicks off over it then ignore her. She is an entitled brat.

If they are gamers just get £10 playstation/xbox/whatever vouchers (you will need to check which setup they use first). They are handy for use within games. Maybe a chocolate Santa to bulk out the gift?
Cinema a great idea too. I think a trip with their cousins is something to look forward to and remember.