Give up seat on the train

[ItsTheSmallThings]

AIBU to give up a seat on a busy train for a mum carrying a young toddler?

YANBU would be very kind

Who is saying you would be? If you're sat in it you can give it up to whoever you like.

Are you looking for praise?

why would you imagine you were being unreasonable - you can give up your seat for anyone you like. Did someone on the train complain?

Yes, you're being massively unreasonable. Let them stand up

I'm just looking for general opinions on when you wouldn't/ would give up your seat.

I always 100% give up my seat for women carrying babies or young children, or allow a child to sit. It’s just plain good manners isn’t it? Obviously I give my seat up for a pregnant lady too, though when I was commuting pregnant 15yrs ago I was only given a seat twice. I was obviously pregnant in the last 3 months too, but guess it’s not easy standing on a packed train so everyone has their head in a book or phone to pretend they don’t notice.

Whenever I see someone who needs it and I don't need it. I usually need it tbh.

Is this a reverse?

Why would this ever be considered unreasonable?

Is this a reverse? Of course yanbu why would that b u?

Have a pat on the back, because that is why you posted.

Reverse?

There are literally signs up asking people to do this, so obviously NBU

You’re the ma with the kid then?

Depends on your situation - no point being a martyr if you need the seat.

Reminds me, I once offered my seat to a very heavily pregnant woman, she was really offended.

Now I'm more wary...

It was me and toddler. People on the train looked at us then looked down. We nearly went flying and a young lad noticed and offered me his seat. Bless him, he even said i will stand and watch your pram which I thought was very kind. Just got me wondering what the train etiquette is as it's been years since I caught one.

Your joking, why on earth was she offended?

Thinking about it, I don't think I'd really consider it for a woman with a toddler.

Pregnant
Disabled
Elderly
Someone asks me

Then it's on my radar. But not everyone with a young kid.

So you're a better person than I am!

So you're a better person than I am!

Except she's not, because she is doing a (tiresome) kind of reverse.

I might for a toddler actually. I don't for pregnant people as they might just be fat/an unusual shape/menopausal. I do for anyone who looks like they need a seat more than me.

She said "I'm pregnant, not disabled." And shot me a death stare worse than Paddington Bear.

She really was very heavily pregnant and had heavy shopping bags, it was busy, she looked knackered.

No good deed 😬

You total fucking hero

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