Friend sold gift

[WeIsh]

I should start by caveat this was a gift my father gave to my friend. My father makes absolutely terrible financial decisions all the time. My childhood friend was admiring the object when she visited my childhood home last year and without her asking he gave it to her.

It’s worth about £2k. My father is very cash poor (although reasonably asset rich). I received a text from my friend tonight saying she feels bad but she sold it.

No idea how much she sold it for. She does not need the money but my father does. She knows my parents are struggling financially. The message came completely out of the blue.

I guess he gave it to her but that was because he thought she genuinely liked it and he is very fond of her, having known her so long. (Not to mention he is very daft when it comes to finances.) I’m feeling a bit peeved about it to be honest and haven’t responded. I think it’s quite rude.

What would you do in this situation?

@NuffSaidSam

Oh - I LOVE the way you cherry picked just PART of my post to suit your agenda.

The FULL post was

it's possible that the person who's bought it off her for £25, may even have broken some kind of law for fraud. I don't know. I don't really know enough about it, but you need to find out who she sold it to.

I said I don't know for sure coz I don't know enough about it. But you knew that didn't you?

I don't think there is any fraud (maybe ask the poster who I was quoting?).

Not sure of the legal situation with 'knockers', if they're cold calling and being coercive then it's a completely different scenario to the one in the OP.

@NuffSaidSam I was agreeing with you.😀

Erm...yes.

I picked the part I wanted to respond to so it was clear, that's kind of how this works!

I don't think there is any kind of fraud on the part of the buyer. I think it was a ridiculous suggestion.

But you said you didn’t know and the poster was answering you? The whole quote didn’t provide more context here? It’s how most retail businesses function, you buy something for less than its retail value and then sell it on for more. It’s up to the seller to price correctly.

They weren't 'just answering me' ... they picked PART of what I said to make it look like I had said the person giving the OP's friend only £25 may have committed fraud. Which I never said. They conveniently omitted the bit where I said 'but I don't know for sure coz I don't know enough about it.'

Now quit making excuses for that poster. I know what their game is, and I'm not having it.

Is it Monopoly?

Yes, this. Incidentally, I have noticed that the most penny-pinching Scrooges I’ve met throughout my life, the sort of person who would do this, have all been at least comfortably off and often rich.

After selling it, how did she just suddenly realise it was worth 2K?
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No one misquoted you or cherry picked. The part she missed out makes no difference to the meaning of what you said.

"They may have committed fraud" and "they may have committed fraud but I dont know enough about it" are the exact same.

You said may have. You didnt say "I think they committed fraud". The 'may have' indicates that you didnt know. Cutting the last part off the quote makes no difference.

It was obvious you didnt know, and that poster was just answering you. And you've gotten really snippy and nasty to her. No one is playing a game.

It's also pretty bloody obvious that no fraud has been committed.

Because OP told her

Also I received a text from my friend tonight saying she feels bad but she sold it.

WTAF??? Is being tightfisted a religion, did Saint Skinflint appear in a vision and tell her she had to sell the gift? If she felt bad, why the hell did she do it?

And your dad sounds lovely.

She's a fool.

She sold a gift she was given a year ago for 25 quid? like why? She didn't need the 25 pounds. If she needed it out of her house so badly she could have asked if you'd take it back.

How does she get through the world? Eejit.

From OPs later updates I think he sounds a bit odd actually (sorry OP!).

I think I might have to be truthful. I would be equally upset. She missed the spirit of the gift entirely.

@@WeIsh send her what @forgetfulbrain wrote!

id be hurt & upset too!

@PurpleButterflyWings if you say things that are daft, people are going to point it out. It’s isn’t like real life where people just scoff behind your back 😃 Getting in a huff about doesn’t help.

😂

OP, when you say it was worth £2k, do you mean that is how much a second-hand one sells for on the open market? Or that is how much your dad paid for it when he bought it?

Awful. I agree with the comments for her to return it or give him the money.

This is what any decent person would have done.

I'd have very little to do with her from now on tbh. She doesn't sound like a good person.

If you were gifted an object a year ago, and the circumstances clearly implied that this object had no sentimental or financial value to the gifter, you wouldn't offer it back. I don't know why anyone is pretending that they would have given it back, it would be completely inappropriate to return a gift like that - "here I'm done with the gift you gave me, you can have it back now".

It is strange that she felt the need to tell you, I find that difficult to imagine. But selling it is no biggy, it was hers to sell.

Your dad sounds like a lovely man OP.
I do wonder why she couldn't have called you before she sold it to ask if you'd even want it (to sell or give back to your dad, for lack of space)

I'd be very pissed off and hurt!! I really do hope the buyer will be a kind enough to understand and return it.
I know I would! But I also know many others that wouldn't.

Sorry OP but that was a shitty thing for your friend to do