Friend sold gift

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I should start by caveat this was a gift my father gave to my friend. My father makes absolutely terrible financial decisions all the time. My childhood friend was admiring the object when she visited my childhood home last year and without her asking he gave it to her.

It’s worth about £2k. My father is very cash poor (although reasonably asset rich). I received a text from my friend tonight saying she feels bad but she sold it.

No idea how much she sold it for. She does not need the money but my father does. She knows my parents are struggling financially. The message came completely out of the blue.

I guess he gave it to her but that was because he thought she genuinely liked it and he is very fond of her, having known her so long. (Not to mention he is very daft when it comes to finances.) I’m feeling a bit peeved about it to be honest and haven’t responded. I think it’s quite rude.

What would you do in this situation?

You don't mention the item having any sentimental value so... YABU. More fool him for giving away his valuable possessions, but she isn't bound to hold onto his stuff forever just because it was a gift.

Just because her dps family has money doesn't necessarily mean she has.

She had it for a year, at what point does a gift belong to her to do with as she pleases?
5 years?
10?

I sent her a message and she called immediately. She apologised, she said she didn’t realise it was worth so much. We are now trying to sort it out.

So how much did she sell it for?

£25

I can't believe some people think it's ok not to have offered it him back rather than sell it if she just no longer wanted it! I don't have any friends who would behave this way. Even when I've gifted second hand clothes or toys and said I don't want them back my friends still clarify before asking do I mind if they donate them or sell them etc, let alone expensive antiques.

Blimey

Is she thick , surely you look up something’s value before you sell it .

If she didn’t want it she should have given it back - she has behaved disgustingyly.

That's appalling. Also, if she sold it for £25, either she was taken advantage of by someone else, knowing its real worth or she gave no shits that it was a gift from your DD and dispensed of it to the first person who expressed an interest.

Was it a big item? Like furniture or jewellery?

Has she just seen this in a completely different light ? Perhaps that your father gave her an object because he didn’t want it anymore but knew she had admired it. She didn’t really want it but didn’t want to offend - then sold it on without realising how valuable it was ?

I bet she won’t get it back though.

OMG! £25 for a £2K antique.

Excellent response.

Sorry, hadn't seen the updates!

The fact she sold it for £25 would hurt even more that it really meant so little. I don’t think I would ever look at her in the same light again.

I'd message her and say oh great seeing as my father gave it to you because he thought you were genuinely fond of it and you obviously are not, I expect you to give my parents the cash you received from selling it. X

Sorry just saw that she said she sold it for £25, I wouldn't believe her. X

My arse did she sell it for £25.

She is just battening down against the time you find out that she sold it and hoping that you will take her word for it.

I should add that the reason I dont believe she sold it for that is because people who dont need money dont sell a gift for £25......FFS I need money right now and I wouldnt for £25 as the hassle isnt worth it! Unless she "sold" it to her partner.........

You and him are both being strung along by someone who isnt a friend.

CFer !!!! Tell her to give the money to your DF..

At least she got fuck all for it. I’d not be friends anymore.

You're not going to sort it. Who ever bought it wont give back a £2000 item they got for £25. They bought it fair and square. They'll quite probably have already arranged a buyer.

Your friend is a fucking moron as well as ungrateful. Hope she was ashamed of herself.

I find this very strange. Do you think she told you she'd sold it for £25 (but either kept it or sold it for its true value), to stop you either asking for it back or asking for the money?

OMG!! This person is no friend. You need to find a way to ensure your father isn't taken advantage of again like this! Maybe sell some of his valuables for him, for an appropriate amount, so that he has the cash he needs?