AIBU for not inviting family to Center Parcs?

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My sister is annoyed for not inviting her son (my nephew) to CP.

I have booked a lodge to celebrate my birthday, and there is room for 1 more person, however I don't want anyone else to come. The issue I have is that she treats my nephew like a child when he is an adult, therefore I am going to have to collect him and take him home, that adds an extra hour to the car journey (it already takes 1.5 hours) when I already have a young baby in a car. I am going to have to babysit and pay for all of their food and activities.

Also, my nephew doesn't call me on my birthday, so I feel like they just want a free holiday.

AIBU? If not, how do I tell her I can't take him?

It's fair enough not to want him there - even without all those reasons.

"Lovely he'd want to come, but we've decided to have a break with just our immediate family for this birthday, so we can have some quality time together."

Is she going? Is that why she wants him to go? How old is he? You’re perfectly within your rights to say no.

@Honeyroar no, my sister isn't going. My nephew is 18.

Yanbu at all

@SunshineAndFizz thank you

YANBU. She's very odd for even suggesting this idea. Enjoy your birthday.

Your sister wants you to take her adult kid on your family holiday and put yourself out picking him up and talking him back? It would be fine if you wanted to - but you don't. So she's in cf territory.
Nope. Doesn't work for me sis, sorry.

therefore I am going to have to collect him and take him home,

No. You don’t “have” to do this. No one does.

. I am going to have to babysit

He’s 18? Again, I see no obligation here to do any of this stuff

and pay for all of their food and activities.

You seem to think the very existence of the suggestion predicated your “having” to do all this stuff?

It seems utterly bizarre that she would even suggest you taking your 18 year old nephew along on a family holiday .... how did the subject come up?

Strange suggestion from your sister!

This is bizarre. Have you taken him away before? Does she take him away or do favours for you? Do you have any other dc? Not sure an 18 yo would want to tag along with you both and a baby.

Why on earth would any self respecting 18 year old want to go to CP with his aunt and a new baby.

This!

Friend and I took out two 15 year olds over a decade ago, they were bored shitless and had each other for company.

What kind of dysfunctional family do you that you need to even ask? There must be some back story here.

It’d be an unusual 18 year old who wanted to go on holiday with his auntie’s young family… do you have kids around his age? That’s the only possible reason I can think of for him having any interest in going?

Even if he’s desperate to go 🫤 you have every right to go as a family and without any Klingons…

Is there a back story here? Like, have you always taken him on holiday so this would be the first time without asking him? Cos otherwise your sister's reaction is super weird. Also, he's surely not going to want to go? YANBU

Go and enjoy your holiday with your little baby - without your adult nephew.

Who would you have to babysit?! Surely not the 18 year old

Interested to see those who have voted YABU and what their reasons are.

YANBU.

Very odd she would suggest an 18yr old nephew tagging along, of course you don’t want him going. So cheeky

Is there a drip feed that you've invited all the other cousins?

As others have said, it's surely wildly unlikely that he'd actually want to go.

Ridiculous that she’d even suggest it. Why would you have to take your adult nephew just because you’re going on a break?

Why would he even want to go?

What's the reason she wants him to go? Are the GP's going and all the other GC will be there except him?

Why would you need to pay? If she wants him to go she should pay for his food and activities. Who else is going? Could someone else take him?

It's fine you don't want to take him, it's your birthday and your holiday and you can do what you like. It just seems you have missed out part of the story, why would an 18 year old male want to go to CP with a couple and their baby?

Yanbu, just stay quiet. If she asks, say it doesn’t work for you.

Why does she know about the holiday, extra space etc?

It is your birthday and you can keep to just your family unit, of course.
No explanations needed.
No 18 year old I know would ever want to join you at CP in the first place!!! Weird she even suggested it.

This all sounds very odd. Why would your 18 year old nephew want to go to Centre Parcs with you and your baby in the first place?