AIBU for not inviting family to Center Parcs?

[Saju1]

My sister is annoyed for not inviting her son (my nephew) to CP.

I have booked a lodge to celebrate my birthday, and there is room for 1 more person, however I don't want anyone else to come. The issue I have is that she treats my nephew like a child when he is an adult, therefore I am going to have to collect him and take him home, that adds an extra hour to the car journey (it already takes 1.5 hours) when I already have a young baby in a car. I am going to have to babysit and pay for all of their food and activities.

Also, my nephew doesn't call me on my birthday, so I feel like they just want a free holiday.

AIBU? If not, how do I tell her I can't take him?

Thank you OPs, honestly thanks you guys I've realised I was actually a push over, and thanks to you I had the courage to push back!! I didn't the realise it before, but I was being emotionally blackmailed, and I knew she was being out of order throughout the whole conversation. I am no longer going to be a push over :) thanks OPs :)

I learned to give family a “fait accompli” which I got on here years ago. It means let them know when it’s a done deal.

Oh, next week we are going to CP.
I can’t do that, we are in Greece for a week.
Sorry, can’t do Christmas as we are going to Lapland.

……oh, didn’t I mention it. I booked it ages ago. I must have forgot.

I just need to work on friends asking me to do stuff, then dropping out.

just say no... simples

Your sister sounds right cheeky little,,, An 18 year old should be out with his mates not sponging off you

@Jo586

please read the whole thread

Why did you say 'ill know for next time' gives the impression you will invite them next time? And why was the Aunt involved I still am puzzled by this!

You are NBU. Sounds like your sister wants him to go so she has a break from him. It's your birthday and even if it wasn't you have NO obligation to take him.

And now you need to work on your mum.

Had you not invited her she would not have begged for her sister to be included and your nephew would not have been invited.

Your sister is not your only family member who presumes upon your good nature.

I imagine your DH has some invoiced opinion on this. Listen to him and use your new found backbone with your mum too.

I definitely will be using this experience next time when organising a holiday :)