To think 3 days compassionate leave is appalling

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How much do you think people should be given?

Depends on the circumstances surely?

It’s the standard I’m afraid but most people get a doctors fit note and stay off much longer.

Well if it's your grandma 3 days seems fair, but if it's your kid it's not even close

Compassionate covers quite a lot - what’s the actual reason?

if someone was struggling with grief they can get a sick note from the doctor - if not fit to work.

Depends on the circumstances surely?

I took 3 days when my mum died, I wasn't really ready to go back but felt it was the 'done thing.'

Exactly. There's no context at all in the opening post.

This, if you get signed off by the doctor then the amount of compassionate leave is irrelevant anyway.

I was off about 6 weeks when my mum died quite suddenly, although tbh my work were very supportive and never actually asked for a doctors note.

Depends on relationship and cause of death (ie. Sudden verses long illness you prepare for).

If spouse or child then you can get signed off until ready to return.

Parent, I'd say 5 days.

Friend etc then it's a day for the funeral

I once saw someone argue for pet bereavement leave. Someone replied, what if your pet were ants which died daily!

3 days is enough. You go off sick after this or use AL.

Really depends on your relationship with the deceased and the circumstances of their death surely, plus of course how you respond to their loss and whether you feel able to work or not

If you aren't ready to return to work after 3 days then take sick leave

Everywhere I’ve worked it’s been three days for a direct relative. When my dad died i went to my GP and got a sick line for bereavement for 2 weeks.

Is this leave paid? Presumably you could take the compassionate leave then have sick pay/unpaid leave if you needed longer. With a Fit note, if required.

My DM died suddenly in her 50s, I was at the beginning of a week of annual leave anyway and I went back after that. 3 days would not have been enough.

I got a day for my dog. Tbh it seemed quite generous.

It depends on so many things; relationship to deceased, circumstances surrounding death, job. Where I work it’s 3 days unless it’s a child in which case it’s two weeks which I think is absurd but I guess someone would then take leave. Everyone grieves differently so I don’t think any amount of days would be right for everyone.

Depends on what’s happened.

I think it entirely depends on your relationship, the circumstances and the likes. I think places should have flexibility in situations.

I worked in a place that had 4 weeks paid leave for the death of a parent or child and two days for a grandparent or step-child. However, despite seemingly very compassionate they were hopeless in situations out with their set boundaries. I was brought up by my Gp’s yet got disciplined for having three days extra (My AL was denied). Exactly the same happened to a man whose stepson died very suddenly at 14. He’d been the child’s Dad since he was 1.

Depending on relationship, 3 days isn't enough. Immediate family 3 days is nothing.

We get extra if you have to travel and you can add annual leave, sick and emergency (3 days for that).

There's no way to quantify how much time you need.

Depends on situation.

In my job I got a day for my pet which I felt was ok (I was heartbroken he was my child) but then a year later a colleague got a week for their dog. Both of us didn't lose any pay.

It depends in the relationship with the person imo. A Granny who actually raised you and was primary carer is different to a granny who you see at family events and Christmas etc.

Are you going to tell us the circumstances ?

Depends on circumstances? If my DH, DC or parents died regardless of it being suddenly or a not I’m going to be taking more than three days off.

Totally depends what for. I got a week when dd1 died suddenly and had to get signed off with stress to have longer off…..I still can’t quite forgive my boss for not using her discretion after I explained the post mortem alone would take 6 weeks.

Sorry I should have put more detail in opening post. It's for a young girl who very suddenly and very traumatically witnessed her mum pass away