Hour many hours sleep at weekend

[sleepyrant]

I'm trying to establish what is normal for a grown adult male.

My DH seems to think that 12/ 15 hours is normal.

And that I am a nag/ unreasonable for suggesting that sleeping like a teenager is normal for a grown arsed male.

Should I LTB?

What else is he supposed to be doing? If nothing, then leave him be! If he’s shirking, then yes, LTB.
I love my bed though, and spend a lot of time in it al weekends.

Depending on how much sleep he gets in the week, maybe he actually is extra tired at the weekend?

Nothing wrong with a weekend lie in. Do you not each take a weekend morning to lay in/do your own thing?

:Actually I"m being unreasonable. He appears to need at least 11-12 hours in the week.

Is this normal?

Agree nothing wrong with a lie in at the weekend. But how much sleep does one human being need?

Per night? I mean that’s quite a lot if he’s not ill in any way. But if you don’t have children, and nothing pressing to do, that’s up to him.

If you so have children, it’s ridiculous.

I’ve been ill this weekend so slept absolutely loads.

If he's getting sleep deprived with the work / family routine, he may need this recovery at the weekend in order not to become long term sleep deprived which can affect physical and mental health. Some people really do need ideally 9-10 hours a night, and most adults do NOT get this during the working week. So, it's fine if this is the case.

However, if it's more that he's lounging in bed trying to get out of chores and childcare, not actually catching up on much-needed sleep so he can function well the rest of the time, that's different.

Yes I have two teens. He mirrors their weekend sleeping patterns.

it's driving me potty.

Has done for years. Apparently that makes me a nag.

7-9 hours is the need for a healthy adult. Varies on the individual. I would agree that your partner is a lazy slob. Whilst the occasional lie in is nice no way would I waste away in bed for 15 hours.

You need to provide more information. On the basis of what you've said so far I'm just left wondering why it bothers you.

You are a nag sorry

He can sleep however long he wants when he wants

Well I'm the only human downstairs before Midday at the weekend.

No one else gets up, let's dogs out, feeds them.

Been the same for the last 15 or so years.

Wouldn't that wind you up?

Bloody hell 😂

If we have nothing on we sleep far too much. If my partner told me I was sleeping too much I'd tell them to fuck off. Maybe the b who needs leaving* isn't him

Really?

I see most other adults functioning before midday.

Well this is kind of the point isn't it. We do nothing and achieve nothing because he can't be arsed to get up!

My boyfriend and I are having a duvet day today so we’ve been in bed all day watching telly with the cat. But generally we wake up earlyish at the weekends - about 7:30 ish. We stay in bed for a while though and then get up around 9. We don’t have children. I would find it unattractive for my partner to be sleeping in until midday.

Wow

Sounds like you'll soon be the only adult in the house at this rate

I wouldn't put up with you. I'm surprised he has for this long

So I am the only person who gets up. We achieve nothing. The kids think it's fine for mum to be the one to get up and do all of the chores.

And I'm the unreasonable one .

Got to love Mumsnet.

Why do you do nothing because he is asleep?

Nothing wrong with the occasional duvet day.

I'm talking about a lazy arsed grown man who sleeps in till midday Saturday and "Sunday every fucking weekend.

I don't do nothing.

I'm talking about him doing nothing or doing nothing as a family or a couple.

Is he overweight?
Does he tend to make noisy breathing/snoring sounds when asleep?

Reason for asking, people with sleep apnoea get v little benefit from hours of sleep, and therefore have a need to sleep longer.
If this could be the , frogmarch him to GP.

No health issues.

Not overweight.

YANBU at all. Honestly it would be so incompatible with my lifestyle to have someone who slept that late! Weekends are precious time with my partner and I would be sad to miss both mornings because he was asleep.

Yes exactly how I feel about it.
I also think it's poor for him to call me a nag in front of the kids for asking him to pull his weight in the morning.

I've got ME/CFS and I don't sleep that long.