I work until 2 a.m. five nights a week. Husband woke me up at 5:30 this morning so he could go for a run before work.

[MonicaFaloolaGeller]

Not by accident while he was getting dressed or anything. 11mo DS was still awake after his bottle and DH “had to go” so he woke me up to sit with him and get him back to sleep.

I wasn’t working last night, but on the two nights I’m not working I really struggle to get to sleep early, so I was awake til after 1.

If he’d foregone the run, or even just made it a bit shorter and got DS back down before leaving, I could have had two more hours of sleep.

AIBU to be absolutely fucking raging?

Ltb.

Seriously.

Wow. How selfish.

Did he actually go?

What did you say?

Incredible.

Incredibly selfish I mean

What a massive prick

Words fail me op. What a utter selfish bastard he is. He put his run above your sleep.

Does he treat you like shit often?

Yeah, he can get in the bin. What a nob

Yep. Woke me at 5:30, was out the door 5 minutes later.

I was too busy registering that I’d been woken at 5:30 and handed a baby to actually say words out loud by the time he left.

Is he usually this selfish?

But you hadn't been at work last night...so presumably you'd had a normal bedtime..
Does you dh usually get up and give your ds an early morning bottle every day ?
I don't think it's hugely awful

Men always expect women to work
around them but the favour is rarely reciprocated.

I’d be livid op! What are you going to do about it?

@Theredjellybean
read the OP properly 😬

Op didn’t get to sleep until 1am.
It happens when you do shifts.

2:30 a.m. is my “normal bedtime”. I can’t just will myself to fall asleep four hours earlier on my nights off, convenient as that would be.

I'd be furious at his selfishness

Wow!!

is he working today? If not I would definitely be telling him you are having the morning in bed as you were woken so early.

what a selfish knob

This x1000 💐💐💐

I think with men like this the only way to do deal with it is to do something similar to them.. So when you finish work at 2.30 am go home, put the bedroom light on and do your relaxation stretches for half an hour before bed.

Fuck me.

I would go full on fucking mental. I am not usually an advocate of shouting, but I would in this situation. He needs to understand how epically over the line he is, so he never even thinks about doing it again. And you need to stamp out this selfishness, or you are going to end up having to LTB

👏…Or alternatively, this..

Tell him either he respects your need for sleep or you give up your job and he pays all the bills [NB don't actually do that].

Also next night shift, shake him fully awake when you come to bed around 2-3, so he actually knows what he's doing. To be fair any normal human being should know what they are doing here, ok to make him feel what he is doing.

Wake him at 2am when you get in from work

What did you say/do?

Does he go for a run every morning?

I can see how he might feel that you never actually worked last night so could be woken up earlier. It’s not his fault you don’t go to bed earlier on your nights off.