Comments from friends' husbands?

[Icanseeitinyoureyes]

Went out for a meal with a group of friends, one's husband joined after an hour. He ended up sitting next to me and he said to me, "You look really good." I later told another friend and she said "Does he fancy you."
Just being nice or inappropriate?

A couple of years ago I had a big change of hairstyle. Put it on social media and a different friend's partner (who I'm not even friends with it all) commented, "Wow, new hair, definitely a good decision.!"

Coming from females they would be entirely normal comments, but friend's partners who I hardly know, not sure?

Perfectly normal IMO

Flattering. :-)
I wouldn't read any more into it than that, personally..

He didn't say it loudly either. I'd met these men once or twice but that's it.
If I'd come in some sort of fancy dress and they'd said, "wow, great costume." That's totally nornal.
But this felt different

Of course it’s perfectly normal. It’s called small talk. A little compliment. It’s not like he asked you to sneak off for a shag!

You are reading way way to much into this

Those were type of comments you’re supposed to say, men or women.
Women get comments about looks (gender based stereotyping that this is what women want).

It must just be me, I just couldn't see myself telling a partner's friend/friend's partner "Wow , you look really good."

Maybe 'cool haircut/shirt etc." But..

I think you need to settle down. If you get it into your head that everyone's husband fancies you, no good will come of it. Platonic complements exist.

Unless he passed you his hotel room key whilst he said it I think your virtue is safe

Completely inappropriate, like you say if you were all in fancy dress it would be different.
I wouldn't tell anyone else about it but I'd definitely avoid being sat next to him again.

Yeah maybe I was reading too much into it, just didn't know if it was normal or not

It was just the fact that he said it very quietly too but I'm gonna forget it now

You need to calm that big head of yours. People can give compliments without it meaning anymore than just that, not everyone wants to get in your knickers op.

I know they don't, and I know people give compliments. It's only been 2 men, I'm not saying it's everyone..

But he only said one thing, didn’t he? He didn’t carry on saying you looked hot, or your dress made you look sexy etc. He wasn’t digging the whole time you were next to him..

As for the social media comment - that’s probably why you put the picture on social media- because you thought you looked nice. We all do. And you got compliments. One was from a friend’s husband. Openly in front of everyone.. He was being nice.

Totally normal, can't really see how it's inappropriate unless his hand was on your leg/he was invading your space/he was giving you a lewd look at the same time etc.

What you described in the OP is harmless, kind behavior

Yeah i accept I was reading into it too much so I'm glad to have established that

I think it is a bit sus.

I think it’s hard to say without being there, hearing the exact tone, knowing the exact context and knowing what he’s normally like with you. Did you actually get an uncomfortable vibe at the time or did you only question it after your other friend said something?

I’ve had friends’ husbands say ‘hello, you look lovely, I love the hair’ or similar in greeting and I wouldn’t think twice about it. But a murmured comment ‘you look really good’, intentionally said so that no one else could hear, could definitely come across quite inappropriate depending on body language and various other factors.

I don’t think any of us can really say for certain how you should feel, and if something actually made you instinctively uncomfortable then don’t dismiss that feeling just based on the opinions of some strangers online.

Completely normal. You are allowed to tell someone they look nice, it doesn't mean you fancy them.

I think it depends on your culture if it is inappropriate for a man to comment due to religion modesty or whatever but in British culture that is 100percent normal nothing to be read into at all. Maybe you are not used to getting compliments accept them gracefully and enjoy the Confidence it brings I would not read anything into it at all.

Totally normal in my social circle and nothing more meant by it other than to give a compliment

Trust your gut, OP. Trust your gut.

I would definitely say it to a friend's partner. If I felt they'd made a real effort or were looking particularly dapper I'd definitely say "Wow, you look great!" or whatever.

I'm with you OP, I have come across more than enough creeps in my life to know when someone is being a creep.

If it was an innocent comment then he would have just said it when he saw you, not quietly so no one else heard.

Yes innocent comments exist but so do creeps. Lots of creeps!