Comments from friends' husbands?

[Icanseeitinyoureyes]

Went out for a meal with a group of friends, one's husband joined after an hour. He ended up sitting next to me and he said to me, "You look really good." I later told another friend and she said "Does he fancy you."
Just being nice or inappropriate?

A couple of years ago I had a big change of hairstyle. Put it on social media and a different friend's partner (who I'm not even friends with it all) commented, "Wow, new hair, definitely a good decision.!"

Coming from females they would be entirely normal comments, but friend's partners who I hardly know, not sure?

I suppose it depends on the partners. All my female friends' partners have become mine (and my DH's) friends and they're all thoroughly nice, clearly adore their wives, if any of them said something like that to me I would imagine it was just a friend paying me a compliment. If however I felt that someone's partner was just generally a little bit on the overly flirty with other women/sleazy side then the context might make a comment like that show in a different light if that makes sense.

@AllOfThemWitches oh yes, literally, that’s exactly what I wanted!

would you rather he had of said you look horrible then?

@Pompomsfantastix

"Last week as I was lying topless, boobs out, waiting for an ultrasound, the female nurse/assistant/whatever she was commented firstly on how I apparently look young for my age and secondly on my body, literally: “your body looks good too. Do you work out?” Is this ok because she is female? She was married and had a son, so this is ok I guess?"

No, of course that isn't OK, and is completely unprofessional for a medical professional, particularly when you are in such a vulnerable position. If I was you I would have reported her for those comments.

Are those literally the only two things he could have said to her? "You look good or "You look horrible"?

Maybe she'd rather he made no comment at all! How about that?

Yes we do
ive told friends they look good, I’ve had it said to me

I wouldn't have bat an eye. I think you are reading way too much into it, has he ever spoken to you since or made another comment?
You're analysing every compliment you've had, have they made you upset of uncomfortable?
I only ask as most people wouldn't remember these specific occurrences as they aren't significant in any way. If you have been made to feel uncomfortable then this is totally different x

Yes, I’ve heard men compliment my husband. Including today.

Ive also heard him compliment other men.

God so many handmaids on here 🙄 why do random men think their opinion on the way a woman looks needs to be verbalised? And why are other women so gaslighty? Is it jealousy?

Your middle paragraph is disturbing. No healthcare professional should pass comment on a patient's body in that way. I would be really shocked if I overheard a colleague saying anything like that to a patient. Astonishingly unprofessional.

@PollyAmour i let it go because I felt she was new/culturally clueless and probably feeling the pressure of her primary responsibility being to make conversation/put the patient at ease (!) while the consultant is out of the room. I wasn’t offended per se but I imagine it’s only a very short amount of time before she gets sent for ‘further training’ (assuming the nhs can afford this!) 🤨

I’m pretty sure they are just being kind