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I'm beautiful and it's terrible

272 replies

ToesandToads · 12/11/2022 03:34

It's not really is it?

I've seen a few women commenting that being beautiful is to be harassed and abused so it's rubbish to be beautiful.

That's not my experience.

I have never been harassed.

I've never been bothered at all.

I don't get followed. Touched.

I'm not saying that men are delightful. They're not. But they don't bother me.

And never have.

I am beautiful though.

OP posts:
napody · 12/11/2022 07:54

ThatshallotBaby · 12/11/2022 07:48

Do you think it would be agreed that they are all beautiful?

She covered that.

Lentilweaver · 12/11/2022 07:56

Are you Samantha Brick?

Greeneyegirl · 12/11/2022 07:56

I think most pekple

DailyEnergyCrisis · 12/11/2022 07:57

MrsThimbles · 12/11/2022 07:21

It will be the spikes. People might think you’re a hedgehog.

🤣🤣🤣 this ☝️
🦔🦔🦔🦔

Flubber88 · 12/11/2022 07:58

Tall and spiky?🌵

Pebbledashery · 12/11/2022 07:58

Well done huns

ThatshallotBaby · 12/11/2022 07:59

No, she said people would disagree on who is the most beautiful, which assumes that all three are considered beautiful.
Beautiful women exist. How you feel about their beauty is not their responsibility.

Greeneyegirl · 12/11/2022 07:59

I think most people are beautiful. Im yet to meet anyone truly ugly.

I think i got harassed a lot when i was younger because i looked older. By 11 i was 5ft6 had 30F boobs and hips. I could pass for 18. I got catcalled and shouted at in the street and it made me anxious to walk alone and go out. If i was 18 id probably have yelled back or let it was over me. I think its more to do with age

Divebar2021 · 12/11/2022 08:01

I’m very happy to hype up my fellow women - ladies in the gym 🙌 ladies smashing the glass ceiling at work 🙌 ladies raising the babies ( especially on their own ) 🙌…. You get my drift? I’m there for it but beauty isn’t a quality or a skill or an achievement it’s an accident of birth. It doesn’t need announcing to the room. And this OP is exceptionally odd.

Fluffydiamond · 12/11/2022 08:11

Pic or it didn't happen.

butterpuffed · 12/11/2022 08:11

Your beauty doesn't help you sleep at night though does it .

timetogetlost · 12/11/2022 08:11

If you really are beautiful I find it hard to belive you have never been harrassed.

GirlInterrupted · 12/11/2022 08:16

Pics or gtfo

twinklystar23 · 12/11/2022 08:16

toadsandtoes looking forward to your response [drums fingers]

pay pennies please dont call people "haterz" when they are calling out a potentially goady post on a subject that affects all women (regardless of whether theyve been a direct recipient of unwanted male attention.)

HeadNorth · 12/11/2022 08:20

I am amazed how enraged posters are by the OP knowing she is beautiful. Why does it make you so angry that a woman can acknowledge her own beauty? OP says she did some modelling, so obviously she fits the societal idea of beauty and she knows it.

OP - I am amazed you were not harassed by men, every woman I know has been to some extent, regardless of their looks. Including me, when younger, and I am average looking.

It is the not being harassed that gives me pause, not your beauty.

Dalekjastninerels · 12/11/2022 08:21

timetogetlost · 12/11/2022 08:11

If you really are beautiful I find it hard to belive you have never been harrassed.

OP

Explain yourself!

ReneBumsWombats · 12/11/2022 08:22

timetogetlost · 12/11/2022 08:11

If you really are beautiful I find it hard to belive you have never been harrassed.

I've heard that sometimes, men leave very beautiful women alone because they're intimidated, know they have no chance...and some men assume they must be untrustworthy.

EmeraldShamrock1 · 12/11/2022 08:26

What a shit post.

Women are harassed and put on all the time, regardless of how they look.

I assume the attractive women get more unwanted attention.

Most people don't have a choice in how they look good looks or not.

MattDillonsEyebrows · 12/11/2022 08:27

Just read the first couple if pages so sorry if this has already been asked, but what is wrong with finding yourself beautiful?

Whilst beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder (and the best way to make your self beautiful is to be confident and not actually give a shit) it’s much more refreshing to have a woman appreciate her beauty. As a large size 16 I massively struggle with those women (and us larger women all know them) who are a tiny size 10 women whinging about being fat,
but threads like this make me appreciate that the reason they do this is because they’re made to feel fat and unattractive because according to some on here you’re arrogant if you feel beautiful.

I love it when women are happy with their looks no matter what I think about them (just in case anyone notices the dissonance from what I said above) and whilst I agree the OP could have possibly worded her post a bit more carefully, I think all the nasty posts saying ‘ok Hun’ and biscuits just shows that some women don’t want other women to feel attractive.

Dalekjastninerels · 12/11/2022 08:28

OP

You are a Troll!

Prove me wrong.

FeetupTvon · 12/11/2022 08:28

Such an odd post.

twinklystar23 · 12/11/2022 08:28

renebumwombats though wasnt the case with Harvey Weinstein. Though at the top of the tree and was I a very powerful position and clearly believed himself untouchable. Declaring about the allegations that he "might make a film about it"* *

EmeraldShamrock1 · 12/11/2022 08:30

I am attractive too.

More so in my youth.

I have had plenty of hassle over the years.

Maybe it's your height that puts men off harassing you.

Dailymash · 12/11/2022 08:30

That’s great that you’ve never been harassed.

But don’t ever admit that you know you’re beautiful on a predominantly female site, they’ll tear you to pieces. You must put yourself down and not draw attention to yourself.

Personally I love to hear that women are happy with how they look ❤️

PotentiallyPolly · 12/11/2022 08:37

Might think you’re beautiful to yourself but that’s only your perception. Beauty to you isn’t beauty for everyone.

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