I'm beautiful and it's terrible

[ToesandToads]

It's not really is it?

I've seen a few women commenting that being beautiful is to be harassed and abused so it's rubbish to be beautiful.

That's not my experience.

I have never been harassed.

I've never been bothered at all.

I don't get followed. Touched.

I'm not saying that men are delightful. They're not. But they don't bother me.

And never have.

I am beautiful though.

I just saw the update posted by another PP linked to your previous thread. I now realise this thread is actually about self-validation for the OP (who is insecure about her looks and worries that she is too “angular” and “looks like a man”).

OP, there are so many forms of beauty and I suspect that every single Mnetter reading this thread has something beautiful about them. I love this Roald Dahl quotation:

“You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.”

Mumsnet…where we hate to bring other women down.

Well quite @tuvamoodyson
I did mention the golden ratio earlier in the thread. There are criteria to measure beauty by. Some women are objectively beautiful, that’s not their fault.
Vive la sisterhood

Most people know what their strengths and weaknesses are. Some people are beautiful by conventional standards. It would be weird to have a job that depended on it and not know it. It would be odd simply not to see it or guess it from how people respond to you.

No different to knowing you're a good singer or football player. Doesn't mean you are necessarily awful over it.

Possible that person reported your comments. You could do likewise if you feel they broke guidelines and were personal attacks.

🍿

OP it doesn’t matter if you are beautiful or if you are like me.

Wear your skin with a bit of flair and most will think you have something about you.

Confidence is beautiful in itself.

Being a bit of a blaw? Not so much.

It can be a fine line.

That person was very rude to me for no reason whatsover. 😕

Well I have been touched, followed, harassed, flashed to, been told by the HR manager that he has a soft spot for my colour eyes when I was signing the contract (I'm qualified and experienced)- bet he didn't say that to the men in my department.

I think any woman who hasn't experienced some of this either doesn't even realise it or has been extremely lucky. I have experienced this in every country I have lived in, since being a child.

Report the posts.

Reported

@ArcaneWireless

WONDERFUL!

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

I love this thread. Thank you for all the contributions.

I am the OP

Have name-canged.

There is a lot to unwind.

I will double down on the fact that I've never been abused.

That's not to say there aren't a abusive men out there.

They just haven't abused me.

And I am beautiful!

I was in the pub today. There were three men by me who were saying horrible things about women.

I said to them, 'That's not ok to speak about women like that' I got a bit of abuse back.

It's never ok to be a dick.

I am still beautiful. And I still accept it. Why shouldn't I?

And I'm still not pretty or attractive to idiotic men.

You do realise you contradicted your own OP, with this post and posts elsewhere 😀🤔. It makes no sense. And it started as a TAAT

I get the message op you think you are beautiful! That’s great hun !

No one here has seen you OP.

Just saying.

Why are you crowing about being an exception to the rule with abuse? I’d have traded anything to go unnoticed by men during a particularly dark period in my 20s. I ended up with an stress-induced eating disorder and had to go through years of therapy to get over it.

I’m glad you’ve been lucky. Maybe keep that to yourself instead of assuming that the rest of us are lying when we say that standing out has caused us a lot of pain.

I dunno...the way the OP is worded is off putting. Especially the "I am beautiful though." Who speaks like this in real life?

However, I'm ugly and fortunately men never harasses me. 😊

I don't get this thread. It's good you think you're beautiful however. Many women have low self esteem.

And for the record, I've never once though I was beautiful and I'm pretty sure I'm not. I used to get all kinds of weirdos giving me their number, I followed round the supermarket and some one once wrote me letters on a train.

Men are odd.

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