I'm beautiful and it's terrible

[ToesandToads]

It's not really is it?

I've seen a few women commenting that being beautiful is to be harassed and abused so it's rubbish to be beautiful.

That's not my experience.

I have never been harassed.

I've never been bothered at all.

I don't get followed. Touched.

I'm not saying that men are delightful. They're not. But they don't bother me.

And never have.

I am beautiful though.

Funny isn't it that women are encouraged to embrace themselves, be confident with their body etc, but the moment a woman admits she thinks she's beautiful, there is sarcasm, mocking and other women telling her she's probably not all that. Are only overweight, plain looking women allowed to be confident?

Op you've never been harassed, seriously? Were you born a female? Do you live in isolation?
Every single woman I know had suffered from male harrassment. Myself, daughters and dil have all been hounded and harassed as children by males.
I don't believe you.
If you were born female then you will have suffered harassment on some level. Maybe the misogyny has stopped you from seeing it.
I'm older and still this week walking home from work some penis aged about 12 thought it was ok to shout at me twice. I asked dh if it ever happens to him and he said absolutely not, never. He then said he would have gone over and punched the in the face without hesitation. There is the difference.
Men are more afraid of men.

I have lots of attractive friends but 2 that stand out as very attractive - the whole package of a beautiful face and sexy body (as a man would see it). When I've been out with them I've been amazed how much harassment and attention they get. Yes all women (including me) get harassed but this is on a different level. Several people beeping their horns, people we walk past in the street making comments, people in cafes chatting them up. It doesn't matter if it's a Tuesday morning and they're in jeans and a jumper. It still happens.

😂 Nice try..

I'm very pleased you personally have not been harassed.

I wish all women could say the same thing.
Your experience is exactly that and nothing more and you can't draw meaningful conclusions from a sample size of one.

OP

Post a picture of your so called perfect self.

If you do not then I know you are a Troll!

You're not beautiful when there's obviously something wrong with your head to be posting this.

It's great. Men treat you nicely in jobs and in life. I've been chatted up at bus stops since I was young, which used to be very intimidating. I have drunk men come up to me in nightclubs telling me how gorgeous I am. But I like being attractive.

I would find being unattractive terrible because I'd feel self-conscious.

You'd probably just be ignored.

OP I like you, you're honest and confident. The replies sound very jealous.

OP sounds like an INCEL

Nope. I don't think Cameron Diaz is the least bit beautiful. I honestly cannot see what everyone else seems to see for the life of me. I think she comes across as a nice person (in the interviews I've seen) but attractive/beautiful not in the slightest. I saw her as a comedy actress not a Hollywood siren type one. But again I've had people be aghast at my opinion.

My DH and my 2 of my closest friends thinks she's very beautiful. For 2 of my friends - 'girl crush' type beautiful. We've had this debate many a times, haha.

I think Julia Roberts is beautiful- DH describes her as 'not in the least bit even attractive'. I had a work colleague say that hands down Nicole Kidman is the most beautiful woman on the planet. I just couldn't wrap my head around that.

I have 2 very close friends - one of us is pale and brunette, one a blonde, one mixed race - looks Hispanic, olive skinned. I think back in the day we were all relatively good looking girls but all had very different styles. On nights out you could tell we would be someone's type. A guy who liked blondes never gave a brunette so much as a casting glance and vice versa. I'd also say one of my friends was a late bloomer, she went from gawky and not particularly attractive to stunning in her 20s and she's held on to it - now into her 40s I'd still describe her as gorgeous. Whereas for me, I was on a sliding slope and I'm not in the least bit attractive now.

What I have known is people who I've originally thought weren't beautiful become absolutely beautiful to me after getting to know them and again vice versa.

I have never believed one person can be universally beautiful to all though.

C'mon with the vast amount of female posters here, there's bound to be some very beautiful women on MN too.
It isn't a crime to admit it.

Photo or shut up!

Why do we mock people who are happy with their own appearance? We'd all be happier if we all thought we were beautiful.

I didnt use to think i was, then i had DD (3) who regularly tells me i am, so I'm reassessing myself

it's a nice feeling, so i'll stick with it.

Cane on here as my poor niece who is an attractive young woman has a shit time due to her attractiveness (since age 12)
Bullying by other women and men (who she didnt want a relationship with) in the workplace, that's shes had to leave jobs. She can be as dressed down as she wants its relentless. So like other posters I find it difficult to believe this hasn't occurred. Unless like one poster asked if the OP was born female?

Very few people are truly stunningly beautiful but most people are perfectly nice looking.

Not me. I look like the bastard child of a warthog and a blobfish.

But most people.

It's showing off!

No one can help their body shape or face so why should someone be praised because of it?

I doubt it very much.

Why do we mock people who are happy with their own appearance? We'd all be happier if we all thought we were beautiful.

She's obviously being mocked because she came onto a forum to say it out loud.

She is being mocked because she is a Show Off with no evidence aside from her boasting.

She is a Troll!

OP

Explain!!

Looks like the toad has hopped off after getting their arse handed to them.* *

I LOLed at this.

Well said @OoooohMatron
It’s an accident of genetics.
’Some are born to endless night
And some are born to sweet delight’

For the posters who don’t like the op, why?