To think friend is being mean?

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There’s a band I love - friend and her boyfriend love them too. They are American and not toured in the UK for years.

I asked friend if she wanted to go and she said she’s already going with boyfriend. Which is fine, I’m just not sure why we couldn’t all go together. I don’t think her boyfriend has an issue with me.

I don’t have anyone else to go with who will pay that much to see a band they’ve likely never heard of.

Go on your own.

I think she should have invited you too. So bloody miserable of her. Honestly what's wrong with people. Op you need to find someone to go with. You need a plan of action. Is there anyone else that you could go with? Have a good think. If not I'm sure there's someone on here who would be up for it

Is it seated or standing?

Sometimes people just want to do things with their other half and not have a third wheel, it's not mean. Go on your own and then you can all talk about it at school the next day.

Have you actually said "I don't have anyone else to go with. If I buy a ticket do you mind if I tag along with you?" If not, why? Maybe your friend thinks you wouldn't want to go with her and her bf?

DH and I have arranged to go to 2 gigs together and have a friend wanting to go to both but no-one to go with (and yes, one is Blink).
We've just said of course they can come with us. It splits travel costs and standing at a sweaty loud gig isn't exactly romantic is it? He's more DHs friend than mine but I don't mind, especially if this is the only way he can see the bands!

None of my friends like the music that I like (Hard Rock/Metal/Blues/Blues Rock) so I always go to gigs, weekenders, festivals on my own. It’s fine, usually quite a few people on their own.

I like going to gigs with just DH sometimes. I would be annoyed if someone put me in an awkward situation by asking to tag along. She's been polite and made it clear that she wants to go with just her DH in my opinion.

Maybe she is off to check with boyfriend? If i had plans with dh to see a band we loved and he told me his friend was coming I would be annoyed. If he asked me would I mind I would probably say ok.

Equally if friend has plans with you she should run it past you before inviting boyfriend along.

If she doesn't offer it isn't mean it just means they want to go as a couple, and that is ok too.

It's a bit mean to not explain why she's not asking you to go with them. A decent mate would say "birthday date treat" or whatever. Cow.

I don't think your friend is being - she just wants to go with her boyfriend.

Paramore?

I think she should've invited you, it would have been the easiest thing to do. Honestly, go on your own. You'll enjoy it. If you don't go, you'll regret it.

Especially because we don't know how long until they'll be back in the UK!

I've never been to a concert before, I wouldn't want to go on my own either. There should be a concert personals board somewhere because I bet you're not the only one that wants to go but doesn't have anyone to go with.

If she's telling you, "oh, I'm already going with boyfriend", then the obvious implication is that they've agreed that it'll be a date night, just the two of them. She doesn't want to have to spell it out to you.

If you really want to go, could you ask another friend and tell them that you will pay for their ticket as well? I used to do that occasionally because I didn't want to go to a music venue late at night alone (in New York).

Is it soul asylum tonight in London? Man I wish I was going to that

well its hardlys chips and rice down the local... if I'm paying hundreds for a ticket for a date its pretty damn 'special'.

Just go on your own, I have been going on my own to gigs since 15... how do co-dependent type adults function in day to day life? like its 'nice' to have someone to go with but if you dont go because you dont thats just cutting your nose off.

You'll likely bump into your friend or others you know there or make new 'friends' for the night... I mean lets face it, its a room full of people who have a big interest in common.

Just go. If this band rarely comes here, then you'd be foolish to miss them just because you don't want to go on their own. And on your friend isn't mean for wanting to experience this gig with just her boyfriend.

*your own

She maybe is planning a day and night date but she could've said to U meet at the venue for the concert, arrive and leave separately, but she may just be wanting to have a day just them two so I would try n find someone else to go with, and not feel too bad, I don't think it's mean as such but it's a wee bit off if she's ur best mate and she knows u love this band

Because she's he or she hasn't invited you. They like you but have gone ahead without you. So either she's a total bitch or it's a special night out.

Unless you're the only fan, naming a band isn't outing 🙄

Just go alone surely? I get its a bit annoying but you can still go

I can see why you are a bit upset. I’d just get ticket and nearer time tell friend you are going to in case you see each other.

If its Soul Asylum in Birmingham shortly you can go with my DH. I brought him one ticket.

They're not mean.

If you want to go, just go.

Same.

She doesn't need to find someone to go with. She's an adult. She can just go. It isn't Noahs Ark.