Women who don't want kids

[DeadPumpkins]

Is it just me.. or do women who don't want children constantly go on about how much they don't want children?

Nothing against it at all, each to their own and I'm sure I've read that single, childless women are the happiest people which makes sense 😂 but why do they always feel the need to talk about how much they don't want kids??

The only time i talk about how much I don't want kids is when someone who does have kids keeps going on about life fulfilment and love like no other and "awww but are you sure you wnat to miss out on all that joy?"
Yeah

I expect (if this is true) it's because they are tired of being asked about when they will be reproducing.

Probably because they're constantly told they're weird and asked why they don't want kids?

In hope that you’ll realise that we aren’t interested in them, and stop banging on about your own.

No I get that if you don't want kids and people ask you about it all the time... that's fair enough and would be incredibly frustrating.

I mean the women who, will randomly say how much they don't want kids ALL THE TIME. Like ok, yeah we get it.

Never met any like that.

I don't find this at all actually. I have childless friends and colleagues and I can't say I've ever noticed them go on about it.

Maybe it's because I don't go on about how fulfilling my children are....? IDK

I have so much respect for women who decide not to have children.

Maybe it's because they live in a society that is CONSTANTLY telling women that they are expected to want to get married and have children and that devoting their lives to looking after their children will give meaning to their empty lives, blah blah blah.

(I've never met a woman who went on about not wanting kids, could be because I don't ask intrusive questions though)

The women I know in my own life who don't want kids or never had them are very low key about it, never make a song and dance about not liking them, and are nice to my DC.

It's only online that I see the OTT childfree brigade. Maybe it's because the women I know are fulfilled and happy, or many are young enough to change their minds, or they are just kind people. But yes I have seen the obnoxious attitudes, but only online.

I have friends who don’t want children and I don’t agree with this at all! No idea where you’re coming from.

I guess maybe you’re making a broad generalisation based on a few people you know?

But then, so am I.

Pre emotive strike 😂 I don't generally talk about it much but from experience I do bring it up quite early on with new people because otherwise I end up locked in the tedium of someone I've just met explaining how I couldn't possibly know what real love love is till I've had a child and that I'll absolutely definitely change my mind, just wait and see, and of course it's just that I haven't met the right man to procreate with yet because small versions of him would be too cute to resist🤮

I'd rather not be rude to someone I've just met, nor would I question their reproductive choices or suggest perhaps they send their kids or husband back.

So I just make sure they're aware of my stance before they come out with bollocks!

This thread will go down like a sack of shit; but YANBU, I know what you mean.

Yes I was just coming on to repeat what others have said. When I was trying for a baby, I was constantly asked if I was thinking of starting a family. Even when I had the first, id be asked if I was thinking about another. It only stopped really once I had two. It's exhausting I can imagine women who choose not to (and who've had the choice put upon them) getting quickly fed up with all the questioning and jumping in first to try and get it over and done with.

Nonsense. I'm regularly asked by friends and family with children when I'm going to have kids. I would never bring the topic up without being prompted, I'm sick of trying to explain myself. I'm glad that I'm finally getting to an age where people have stopped asking because it's fairly obvious it's getting too late and I'm not going to change my mind.

Pre-emptive not emotive, bloody edit button and my random spacing!

It rarely comes up now I'm in my 40s.

In my late 20s early 30s the constant unasked for niggling about when I was having kids, how selfish I was not having kids, how I would change my mind, how I would be upset when it was too late, was incessant and so yes I'd often try and preempt the rude and intrusive questions and comments by making it clear I didn't want kids to people.

Cant say I've ever noticed them doing it. Its always in response to doting mothers going on how cute theirs are. Maybe look at your own behaviour first?

Given that the amount of woman who don't want or have kids is very small I can't imagine there are that many about who do what you say.

I dont know any.

I’ve not seen it in real life but I have seen it on social media, as though being child free has become a die hard religion.

I've got a few friends who haven't got children and it's become clear they probably never will. I say probably because 2 have said in 1 sentence why they aren't going to bother and the other has never mentioned it.

You could say you enjoy a fine art of kitten torture in the evenings and it would still get less reaction than not wanting children 😂

That ^^
Apparently my life has no meaning and I won't experience joy and I'm not a "proper grown woman" because I don't have children etc etc etc etc
And I can't know what it's like to be really tired or busy

I don't find that to be the case at all in my circle of friends / family.

I don’t want kids. I never mention it unless asked as people can be so judgey and look at you like you’re insane if you tell them. Plus it’s nobody else’s bloody business!!

I've found the number of people who want to tell me every detail of their children's lives vastly outnumbered the women who talk about not wanting children...