Women who don't want kids

[DeadPumpkins]

Is it just me.. or do women who don't want children constantly go on about how much they don't want children?

Nothing against it at all, each to their own and I'm sure I've read that single, childless women are the happiest people which makes sense 😂 but why do they always feel the need to talk about how much they don't want kids??

How do you know how many women don't want kids but never mention it? You only notice the loud ones!

No.

It's like saying women who have DC never stop talking about their DC.

Before I had DC I hated eating in the work canteen hearing stories about everyone's DC.

I only mention mine if asked, keeping answers brief.

I think if anything there is often questioning on why they don't want DC.

My brother and sister are both in their late 30s. They never mention kids. Apart from they couldn't cope with mine lol

I've never met anyone like that. Before I had children at 35 no one ever asked me about them either. I have a many childless friends who don't bleat on about it.

Lots of people go on about their life choices in general. People who have made a life choice which in some way goes against social expectation or is atypical for a person of their sex, class, nationality or whatever are probably more likely to go on about it, because they feel strongly about it or feel defensive of their right to make those choices in spite of social expectations. It's not that surprising imo.

Besides, they probably go on about it s gazillion times less than women who go on about their children.

Omg yes 🙄

I only mention that I don't have children when people assume that I do. Such as asking me how old my children are, if I work part-time due to childcare etc. It actually happens a lot.

It will go down like a sack of shit because it is a sack of shit.

...why do they always feel the need to talk about how much they don't want kids??

It's as if OP knows every childless woman. And even without them knowing every childless woman, I'd bet my life that the childless women they have met don't "always feel the need to talk about how much they don't want kids??"

I don't recall my childless friends colleagues ever banging on about how they didn't/don't want children. Perhaps because I avoided endlessly telling them how amazing it is to have children when I had mine...

Not wanting children of your own and having no interest whatsoever in other people’s lives are two different things, so I very much doubt that would work as a strategy. It would be like thinking that saying you do have children will stop a child free person from banging on about their childfree life.

Most people I know now don't know I don't have children - but that's because I'm nearly 50 and most of my friends and colleagues are of a similar age and a mixture of women and men with older kids and no kids.

Ten years ago all I heard from other women was how I needed to get a move on as I'll be wanting children and time was running out. Those women got told frequently that I didn't want any.

It's true that most childfree women get questioned constantly, told we are weird, unnatural, don't understand love, immature, irresponsible, not real women....after you've been insulted for the 50th time that week you do just want to scream I don't fucking want any. After a while you get it in quick before the inevitable judgement starts 🤷🏻‍♀️

Maybe you have noticed this because you're the one doing the judging and questioning?

Yes!
I have encountered the "how old are your kids". Just assuming I have some😐

I do actually know that, I just thought the OP asked a stupid question that deserved a stupid answer.

I used to bang on about it all the time because people would ask me all the time, and ‘because I don’t want any children’ just didn’t seem good enough for people.

I do have DS aged 3 now because I changed my mind, which I’m also entitled to do. I don’t see why everyone is so interested in everyone else’s choices all the time really!

I tend to see it the other way. Women with kids have a constant need to tell childless women all about how amazing their children are and how we will regret not having children.

You're tired? Try having kids you'll know what tiredness is then, til then don't tell me you're tired

You don't understand what love is til you have a baby of your own

You've been trying for 7 years and have had 14 miscarriages? Oh well we caught on our first try and we weren't even trying, maybe it's not meant to be for you, but you can baby sit mine?

I'm a very motherly looking primary school teacher so being childfree by choice blows some people's minds!

Only time I used to mention it is when people used to lecture me on what I was missing our on.

I'm not maternal, if I'd have had kids it would have been because of family/societal expectations.

I would have made a dreadful parent but I'm a bloody amazing auntie.

Funny that no one is ever asked why they want children. Say that you don't want them and you get a barrage of 'but who's going to look after you when you're old? But don't you want to pass on your genes? Don't you think it'll be fun? Oh you don't know what love is until you have kids!' Ad nauseum.

Yep.

I’ve got quite a few friends ago are child free by choice and I don’t recall them ever really mentioning it, it’s definitely not a ‘thing’ in my experience!

No, Never experienced this.

nope, never experienced this…

Why yes, yes we do. I wear it on a t-shirt and have it announced over loudspeakers 24/7 🙄

I think, it's just you, OP.

I never hear anyone banging on about it in real life.

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