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Women who don't want kids

311 replies

DeadPumpkins · 05/11/2022 12:00

Is it just me.. or do women who don't want children constantly go on about how much they don't want children?

Nothing against it at all, each to their own and I'm sure I've read that single, childless women are the happiest people which makes sense 😂 but why do they always feel the need to talk about how much they don't want kids??

OP posts:
TodayInahurry · 11/10/2023 12:22

I have no children and don’t go on about it. Most of my friends are the same, we have interesting lives with horses and dogs!

RedPony1 · 11/10/2023 12:30

TodayInahurry · 11/10/2023 12:22

I have no children and don’t go on about it. Most of my friends are the same, we have interesting lives with horses and dogs!

This!!

LeaderBee · 11/10/2023 13:14

Withnoshoes · 05/11/2022 12:27

Maybe if we weren’t constantly asked/or told BUT WHY? You will miss out on so much and you won’t ever know REAL love blah blah we wouldn’t need to keep telling people or justifying our decisions over and over.

But yeah parents never talk about parenthood or their kids ever🙄…. Surely everyone gets into conversations about their life choices not just us that have no children

In my real life of course I’ve had the conversation with friends/family and we respect each other’s life decisions. I’m very close to my friends and family members kids and have supported them through parenthood.

Also awaiting the mumsnet bingo phrase : ‘I’ve never understood while those who don’t have children use a site called MUMSnet’

‘I’ve never understood while those who don’t have children use a site called MUMSnet

Gosh, I should doubly not be here, not only do I not want children, i'm also a man! 😂

LeaderBee · 11/10/2023 14:08

SammyScrounge · 23/07/2023 23:36

May I ask why you have so much respect for these women?

I suspect because they have had the willpower to say no to what society is telling every woman they should be doing, regardless of an individuals feelings towards it.

pigsDOfly · 11/10/2023 14:52

One of my daughters doesn't have children and isn't planning to. I know for a fact that she has never 'gone on' about it.

The only time she talks about it is in the context of wondering if she might regret it later in life. Her sister has a large family and I think, she (child free daughter) wonders sometimes, if she's odd not to want children as 'it's what women do' and are supposed to want.

I too wasn't really suited to having children but like a lot of women of my, and earlier generations, I did what was expected of me.

muddyford · 11/10/2023 14:58

I have only ever mentioned this if asked. Unlike many women with children who have them as their only topic of conversation

Anotherdayanotherdramaa · 11/10/2023 15:38

I've never known anyone bring up that they don't want children unless being questioned by people with children.
There's a real culture of asking people when they'll have children, or insisting that everyone wants or will want children, so a lot of childfree people do have to spend time explaining and justifying their decision.

FarEast · 11/10/2023 15:49

Oh fuck off you goady fucker @DeadPumpkins

You started the topic - I might as well ask:

Is it just me.. or do women who have children constantly go on about women who don't want children?

tuvamoodyson · 11/10/2023 15:51

I’ve never wanted children. I’ve never needed to announce it to anyone.

Tiddlywinkly · 11/10/2023 18:16

The only people I've seen who can be vocal about this are some influencers.

AlexaCanYouHearMe · 11/10/2023 18:58

Why was this (rude and goady) thread resurrected? Confused

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