To think you reach an age where getting totally pissed is a bit pathetic?

[ohforthelife]

Maybe I'm missing something?

I enjoy a drink but I'm the sort of person who can have a glass of wine and not need to finish the bottle.

Middle aged DH went out and came home unable to string a sentence together, and couldn't understand why I was irritated. I have no objections at all to him going out, but I just feel when you get past the going out clubbing stage, you should know when you've had enough?

I didn’t used to have an off switch. I couldn’t tell when to stop because one minute I was fine, the next minute I could barely stand up. Everyone is different. I have now given up alcohol altogether however as I was fed up of getting in a state. I am 48 and haven’t been drinking for two years. I don’t judge people by their age particularly when they are hammered. I do secretly think they would be happier to stay sober in the long run though because it has been a fantastic experience for me.

Nothing sadder than an old lush.

I always feel sorry for those sad old gits on their own at a bar or club, drunk.

He's not one of those who's fine one minute and unable to stand up the next. He is one of those who knows he shouldn't have another (because we are going out today and he could do with not having a hangover) but thinks "sod it" and has one anyway.

He wasn't on his own, not that it makes it any better in my eyes.

I used to get like that out I cringe to think about it now, as well as feeling sick at the danger I put myself in so many times. I agree, OP, there's definitely a point where you need to stop and have a word with yourself

To think you reach an age where getting totally pissed is a bit pathetic?

Yes. 19.

I’m 47 I haven’t stopped clubbing, but I drink once a month, though I had two this week. Always with food.

we were at a dance festival had vodka red bull didn’t like how I felt and stuck to red bull for the duration of the festival. I just don’t need to drink anymore to have a good time.

that said my dad’s an alcoholic so I have a strange relationship with booze.

I agree with you. I found my off switch years ago. Plus, I hate having a hangover.

I do still drink, but because I enjoy a glass or two of wine. I don't drink to get drunk, and I drink at my own pace and don't try and keep up with other people.

I have never drunk to get drunk but I just love the taste of wine. Why it is beyond the wit of man to replicate the taste without the alcohol is a total mystery to me.

I don't think it's sad. As long as it's not out of control or a regular occurrence and the individual is still nice when theyre drunk I think it's just a bit of harmless fun.

I’m with @FatOaf . Sadly the less I drink and the older I get the more danger I am in of getting pissed on a thimbleful of sherry.

Some people like to drink and some people don't. I think that's all there is to it.

My DP sometimes comes home wrecked and I think "grow up" but then sometimes so do I and I'm embarrassed I thought that about him and he's so kind to me when I do it.

Our parents do the same and at their age I think they should know better but I thought the same when they were my age now. Sometimes it's just about being judgey. Live and let live. If it affects you, tell him to get a hotel or you get one.

I go out a lot. Not clubbing but to pubs, restaurants and gigs. Occasionally I get drunk but I've always had a very high tolerance for alcohol so never get in the state your OH was in. That said I don't think there is anything the matter with it if it's just once in a while. What harm was he doing other than irritating you.

Hmm…I think it’s a case of personal preference. I don’t like the notion that age factors in how we relax and enjoy ourselves as adults. I think it’s ok to get pissed now and then.

You can buy loads of good alcohol free wine. Frexinet do a fantastic range.

I'm with you OP. How can anyone enjoy themselves being in such a state where they literally can't put words together to form a coherent sentence. It must feel like having a brain injury. I just don't see the appeal.

I don't think it hurts so long as it's not regular. If you're doing it once a week then I think there's an issue but if you've gone out on a rare night with friends and just let the guards down then who cares. You'll remember next time how terrible it feels.
We have a group of friends we meet once every few months for a dinner party and drinks. Age range 28-55. There's always one of us who gets it wrong and has a terrible head the next day (or occasionally a vomiting situation). We just laugh it off as a sign we were having a good time. It's rarely the same person twice in a row.

Everyone's different and everyone enjoys different things. I don't think its that sad ans I don't think there's a specific age where you have to stop doing things.

A lot of dc are frightened seeing parents in that state.
The odd time is probably fine but I don't think coming home drunk and then hungover on a regular basis is really compatible with being a reasonably good parent.

If it's every weekend that's a problem. But the odd occasion is hardly pathetic

I've seen (today alone) two threads about being drunk that read as if 16 year olds have written them. And very immature 16 year olds at that.

I used to get drunk. I've been ill through being drunk. But not for the last 25 years.

I also (this was mentioned on one of the other threads) find the "hilarity" of being out of control drunk very disturbing. On the WIWIKAU Facebook page, in September, there was lots of crying with laughter at parents sending their kids off to university with personalised sick bowls for when they'd had too much to drink. A month in, and those posts have been replaced by posts from traumatised parents whose kids have been taken to A&E because they've drunk too much, had their drinks spiked, been beaten up and robbed and in one case, left university completely because no didn't mean no.

If parents (presumably) on here and elsewhere are so invested in alcohol, then there's no wonder that their kids let loose at university end up the same.

Alcohol free wine (esp red) is just not the same. It’s too light.

but yes to answer your question, older people
getting hammered and all over the place is a bit sad.

i don’t think so, if someone enjoys it and doesn’t ruin their life then why not. Life is bad enough we need to let off steam!

Alcohol free beer has improved a lot recently but alcohol free wine and spirits are abominable. I work in the industry and I wouldn't touch them (but have tried almost all on the market). Just drink flavoured tonic or grape juice!

Nah. I love a good night out. Sometimes you just need a good blow out. once in a while is fine.

not sure why you’re annoyed at your husband. Because you wouldn’t do it?