To think you reach an age where getting totally pissed is a bit pathetic?

[ohforthelife]

Maybe I'm missing something?

I enjoy a drink but I'm the sort of person who can have a glass of wine and not need to finish the bottle.

Middle aged DH went out and came home unable to string a sentence together, and couldn't understand why I was irritated. I have no objections at all to him going out, but I just feel when you get past the going out clubbing stage, you should know when you've had enough?

Yep. I can't bear being around very drunk people any more. I just never really started drinking again after pregnancy when I found I wasn't missing it at all

I’m with you OP. I couldn’t be around people who drank to get drunk or got drunk because they’re incapable of saying they’ve had enough. My ex was an alcoholic though so I’m super sensitive to people’s alcohol intake. You half expect it with uni students and twenty somethings but after mid twenties it’s a bit pathetic, after thirties it’s concerning and after forties it’s repugnant (to me)

I think 30 is pretty much crossing the line into pathetic tbh

Anyone of any age getting drunk is pathetic. They show a lack of self control, a lack of financial sensibility and a worrying sense of mental health.

Yup. I realised in my 20s that it was no fun getting so pissed that I was out of control, and the hangover just isn't worth it.

You can. They do. But it all tastes absolutely nothing like wine.

Actual lol. Alcohol free wine tastes absolutely nothing like wine

None of which tastes like wine.

I don't go out specifically to get drunk, but sometimes it just happens. Parties can be worse cos you don't have to wait for a drink/ check measures. I really, really hate hangovers, but sometimes I end up with one and I'm pissed off with myself.

My mates range from 30 to 50, so clearly we're all pathetic. We have a bloody good time though.

I do judge.
It's embarrassing and pathetic to be that out of control.
Plus the smell that seeps through their pores is disgusting.
It's frightening to children to see their parents like that too.

I can't stand it either.

Sure, have a drink. But when the aim of the evening is to get as drunk as possible and anyone who doesn't is 'boring', no not for me.

I'm not sure why drinkers think they are so fun and interesting.

Another pet hate is having to go to crappy restaurants with cheap food, so that the drinkers can spend more on alcohol. We're going out for dinner surely the food should be the star of the show??

I don’t think age makes a difference. I don’t see why it would.

(I don’t drink any more so it won’t be me who’s that drunk.)

The fact that it has affected his life (your plans for today) and people around him (you) are two of thw warning signs for an alcohol problem aren't they.

He's letting you down, and that is very poor.

I think when you are young you drink to fit it.
If you are getting hammered regularly in your 40s/50s and beyond then you are self medicating.
gave up alcohol 7 years ago as it made me feel tired all the time.

Pursed-lip MN tut-tutting threads about alcohol and growing up always make me want to go out and get absolutely wasted immediately.

Did that many a time in my 20s as a party girl, no regrets.

Still party, still go clubbing, still get drunk, learned enough about what I can and can't handle that I mostly haven't been incapable for years. There's always the occasional exception and they're the sign of extra fun nights.

Really not convinced by the MN mantra about needing to grow up and that any sign of fun or enjoying life past the age of 30 is undignified.

There is a huge difference between being drunk and being absolutely wasted though.

100% agree. Absolutely nothing wrong with getting a bit drunk if it doesn’t impact other people.

MN has a weird issue with alcohol that anyone who drinks more than a small glass must have “a problem”. And where people often won’t have anything at all just in case they need to drive their child to hospital

Well yes of course you have a good time - because you’re all drunk together but outside the drunk group people normally find other people who are drunk boring and bad company 😁

I think it's perfectly fine to get pissed if you want to. I don't think I've ever wanted to get so drunk that I throw up but it's happened. But since having my non sleeping daughter 4 years ago I basically feel a bit woozy from two drinks and can't function with a hangover so don't think I've been 'pissed' for many years now.

LSD for mental health?
How does that work?

if it’s a one off it’s fine

lots of mumsnetters HATE alcohol and going out and socialising and letting your hair down

you should have got all that of your system before you became a parent don’t you know!!!

@BellePeppa

who cares?

her and her pals are all drunk together she said , she ain’t gonna care if some random they might encounter along the way thinks they’re boring

I lived with a mean/maudlin drunk for years so I see absolutely nothing funny in it. Frightening and tiresome. Disruptive. Boring.

I think you do. I’m 41 and quite like a few glasses of wine or a G&T but I haven’t been falling down/can’t speak/sick drunk for many years now. I think I was probably late 20s. I had my first child at 31 and definitely haven’t been that kind of drunk since. Tipsy yes, but not completely out of it. To be honest it just doesn’t appeal.

I am 41, and I rarely drank alcohol until a few years ago. I rarely got drunk as a teen or young adult. I had children very young so missed a lot of those carefree years.

Now, I like a drink. I went out last weekend and was drunk. Not vomiting out-of-control drunk, but very silly drunk. I had a great time, although I know I annoyed my husband when I got home. Some people might have thought it was pathetic, but a great time was had by all.

I can go out and not drink at all and have fun, but sometimes I enjoy drinking and getting drunk. I also know my limit and when I need to stop before feeling ill.

It's not something I would want to do every weekend though.