To think you reach an age where getting totally pissed is a bit pathetic?

[ohforthelife]

Maybe I'm missing something?

I enjoy a drink but I'm the sort of person who can have a glass of wine and not need to finish the bottle.

Middle aged DH went out and came home unable to string a sentence together, and couldn't understand why I was irritated. I have no objections at all to him going out, but I just feel when you get past the going out clubbing stage, you should know when you've had enough?

Apologies for the typos, I have a visual procsessing disorder.

Couple of summer's ago I popped into our small local for a sunny Sunday late afternoon g&t treat. Ran into some school gate friends who had been out since lunchtime. They were with their dc, a tween and a toddler. The dad was so pissed he peed himself and both couples thought it was hilarious.

Tween saw my daughter in school the next day and begged her not to say anything (dd didn't have a clue as I'd not told her). We're all in our 40s, it's ridiculous that a grown man was so hammered at 5pm he pissed himself. More so that his wife and friends found it so funny.

I admit I had more than my share of drunken stupidity as a teenager but there comes a point when you need to adult, and getting so pissed (and spending £££ when you've got real bills to pay) needs to be cut back or slow right down.

I'm a bit concerned about the huge number of posters saying ' it doesn't hurt' or ' it won't harm'.

Obviously excessive alcohol consumption does cause physical and mental harm.

Additionally things are said and done under the influence of alcohol that change lives, ruin relationships etc.

I no longer drink to excess due to any form of hangover leading to an anxiety attack. I'm also like to behave in a manner I find unacceptable when I remember having sobered up.

We really do have a poor relationship with alcohol in this country, no denying that

DH and I rarely get drunk together tbh. When we do it’s quite fun though. Last time was at Pride which seems like ages ago now.

I got it out of my system before I was thirty

Never, ever plan to get drunk again

My last hangover was a bad one

I'm a bit concerned about the huge number of posters saying ' it doesn't hurt' or ' it won't harm'.

Don't worry, we will be fine

I’m mid 40’s, some of my old school friends still go out and get bladdered every weekend. Their life revolves around drink. Every post on FB says ‘on it’ with a laughing emoji. I do find it quite sad. Yes enjoy a few drinks, but to get blind drunk at that age is silly

Just me that looking forward to a pub lunch and then all afternoon watching MotoGP and football with a lovely group of local pub friends we have made then?

We will probably roll home late evening with the stereotypical kebab, watch a bit of crap on TV, a bit of Sunday night passion and then sleep. A happy, content sleep after a fun bay out with husband and friends harming absolutely nobody, like we do on lots of Sundays.

Shock horror we went to the pub for fireworks last night, Karaoke on Friday and were in for a few drinks every other night last week apart from Tuesday.

We enjoy it and life is too short. We both also regularly go out with our own friends and his m and knows full well that if he comes to pick us up late evening he is in for a rowdy trip home, but that it is made up to him once everyone else is dropped off.

Whats the harm exactly?

Up to about age 20 perhaps. After that it's just pathetic and worthy of scorn.

Maybe it's delayed adolescence? Take my cousin married at 18 divorced by 28 out clubbing getting drunk every weekend. Maybe this is why people do it after the age of 25?

Yes it's awful at any age to be honest but when you see someone in their 30s/40s/50s completely legless it's just sad. So undignified.

Why though? If we assume they are happy and doing no harm to anyone else, what’s the issue if that is their chosen means of escape?

I have friends who go a bit potty if they can’t get out for a run. Some of them put themselves through marathons or triathlons and walk insane distances to a point they need a week of work but I don’t judge them. It’s their own form of blowout

In my mind there's nothing wrong with getting a bit merry and tipsy. That's harmless and fun. However, when someone's staggering about, slurring their words, behaving inappropriately or out of character then its just unpleasant. I speak as a reformed binge drinker. In my teens and twenties I used to get in to a right state. Nearly all my regrets are from getting too drunk on different occasions.

Maybe it's delayed adolescence? Take my cousin married at 18 divorced by 28 out clubbing getting drunk every weekend. Maybe this is why people do it after the age of 25?

Or perhaps they just enjoy it

I didn't realise there were so many bitter people about other people getting pissed. I wonder if you all have no mates and you're just jealous

Keep telling yourself that...

You might think you are fine, but things don't happen in a vacuum. Perhaps your partner/kids/family might feel differently.

Or perhaps they don’t?

The number of people on this thread in complete denial about the health and social impact of binge drinking (which FYI is a drinking disorder) is astounding. And sad. And pathetic.

The UK has such an unhealthy alcohol culture.

No.
Unless you wake up lying in your own sick or piss or having had sex you didn't consent to.

I drink. I go to pubs. I make my own flavoured gin. Shared a bottle of wine last night and drank a fair bit at an 18th last week.

There's a difference (illustrated clearly on this thread) between people who drink occasionally cos it's nice and people who drink to get drunk.

This is caused by drinking alcohol too quickly. Alcohol takes time to have an affect, so sometimes people drink and then drink more and drink more as it doesn’t seem to be making them drunk – then it affects them all at once.

The remedy is the switch to lower alcohol drinks, drink slower, add more mixers, or stagger your drinks so you have a non-alcoholic one between every glass of alcohol.

Yes its pathetic if its a regular thing.

If you havent been out for a while and it just hit you one night, fair enough. But i had a mate 45 years old and got paraletic everytime we went out, i had to take her home, as i dont drink.
I was embarrassed for her (and me trying to get her to my car past everyone i knew outside this friendship ). But i do feel sorry for her as she is obviously lacking something in her life to drink to thay extent all the time.

Shock horror we went to the pub for fireworks last night, Karaoke on Friday and were in for a few drinks every other night last week apart from Tuesday

Nothing wrong with that at all. But what I don't really get is this assumption that people who don't drink also don't go to the pub, don't do karaoke, don't have parties... etc etc.
We do all those things; just don't get smashed the way we would in our 20s.

What I find really boring are those people who think it's not a party if everyone's not screamingly pissed. But then those are usually the people who can't relax, loosen up and have fun unless they've had a few.
You know the ones - the people who bring out the bottle of sambuca or tequila; try and make everyone do shots and don't take no for an answer.
It can be a great party on a few beers.. even alcohol free ones. It doesn't have to be beers AND shots AND wine AND cocktails AND 3am brandies so everyone feels deathly the following day.

Dp doesn't like drunk people, he's quite opinionated about it. He spent 20-plus yrs working in the hospitality industry (Club), and he thinks some shouldn't drink as they're irritating (Abusive Fuckers). Many a marriage has been destroyed by drinking skewing decision-making ability.
Although he kindly picked me up on Friday at 1 am ish, I was quite fresh, he drove us home and listened patiently to my drunken ramblings.

@trailrunner85

Yep I find those people incredibly boring. We have to avoid our sons football team nights out now. You’re forced to do shots etc. In the morning the WhatsApp group is just pictures of people being hungover and the odd photo of vomit on the floor. I find them sad.