BF just slammed the door on me for suggesting an overnight break.

[tiredsack]

I'm so tired.

I suggested to my partner that we go on a 1-2 night stay somewhere local.That way we can travel back quickly/easily if we need to. Not a big holiday, just an overnight break.

This would be on me.

My bf screamed at me, insulted me and slammed the door in my face.

That's not normal is it? I come from such a fucked up background it's hard to know sometimes.

All of the finances are on me. All of the cleaning is on me. I cook but only a few times a week because I don't trust the state he leaves the kitchen in. If I sound like Mrs. Bucket - I'm not. It's made both of us ill multiple times and he acknowledges this. He gets really angry if I don't cook lunch for him.

I'm making plans to leave. I'm only here because I know he wouldn't cope without me. It wasn't always like this. I just find it hard to know why someone can have an offer of a trip away and flip like that.

He knew I was upset and came in to explain why he doesn't want to go. He feels unwell and tired.

That's fine. That's an answer.

No thank you - maybe another time. Fine.

I'm sick of being made to feel like a monster when I just try to be nice.

Please, please leave! Asap!
That is not normal, you deserve so much better.
He is abusive.

Please leave, this isn’t normal and it isn’t ok. It doesn’t sound like he is adding any value to your life.

I'm only here because I know he wouldn't cope without me

Yeah, he would.

I gave up reading at all the finances are on me. Get out op, life’s too short for this unpleasantness

OP he will cope with out you and if he doesn't, well he's a grown ass man and that's his problem, not yours. Leave the loser immediately!

Why wouldn’t he cope without you?

I'm only here because I know he wouldn't cope without me.

This is not true, but also not your problem. LTB.

Phone the police he assaulted you and get him to leave

He'll cope fine and frankly, he's an arsehol ewho doesn't respect you or care about how you're coping so he can look after himself.

Please leave him quicker.

It's not your job to be anything but his partner- not his mother/ chef/maid/ banker. He is an adult and is capable of doing these things- he chooses not to because he knows you'll rescue him out of it and do it for him. You are being manipulated into meeting all of his needs while he meets none of yours. This isn't a normal healthy relationship and you deserve much much better than that. You are well within your rights to leave. Make sure you have money in your own name, contact womens aid for advice, make sure you have access to all of your important documents and keep a bag with emergency items at a friend's house until you think you can leave safely. Speak to friends/ family/ your housing association/ womens aid about help with accommodation if you don't have somewhere to go.

Never stay in a relationship where all the finances are on you, is he looking for work or is he just another cocklodger we keep reading about on here.

I'm only here because I know he wouldn't cope without me
Its part of the script. He was fine before you arrived and he’ll be fine when you leave. Stop being so nice. Get angry for the amount of your life you’ve wasted on this arsehole and fgs stop wasting money on nice treats he’s never going to wake up and no longer have an unstable shitty personality. If he can’t live independently he needs to get himself an adult social worker. None of it is your problem.

It's hard to know what you deserve when you haven't come from a safe and loving background - but let me assure you that this is not it.

You need to free yourself from this awful man. He'll cope fine. And he's not your problem anyway.

Focus on yourself. You could be so happy without him dragging you down. Go for it. you deserve it.

He's not your child. You are not responsible for his happiness or his health.

Stop making plans and just leave.

What's your situation? Is it your flat?

He's a useless abusive cunt.

Why would you want go away with such a horrible man ... book the trip away on your own and use the time and space to relax and make your plans to leave.

Get him out. Or just leave yourself. Block, delete, move on💐you sound lovely. Please be careful.

He'll cope fine without you, my love. Dont fret about that. Somehow I think you will blossom without him. He is not a good man, stop wasting yourself on him.

Leave. Make a plan so that he can't track you down. Meanwhile, look up Domestic Violence Services and speak to them when you're sure he won't hear/overhear you.

Who cares if he can't cope without you? Go on your trip, and don't come back.

Do you co-let? Co-own the property?

I have to ask - what on earth is he doing in the kitchen that makes you both ill?

"I'm only here because I know he wouldn't cope without me."

Not. Your. Problem.

He won't cope?

Nah, he'll be on to his next victim in about 5 minutes.

Making you ill from his cooking sounds suspicious. Is he doing something for that to happen?

Please do not waste anymore of your precious life with this abusive despicable man.
He wants you to service all his needs and abuse you too.
Leave as soon as you can.

Please leave this moron now. So what if he can't cope? Not your problem. I had one exactly like this and stayed far longer than I should have

I'm making plans to leave. I'm only here because I know he wouldn't cope without me.

Leave this man child, it's a lost cause.

How he copes is not your problem, that's his mothers.