BF just slammed the door on me for suggesting an overnight break.

[tiredsack]

I'm so tired.

I suggested to my partner that we go on a 1-2 night stay somewhere local.That way we can travel back quickly/easily if we need to. Not a big holiday, just an overnight break.

This would be on me.

My bf screamed at me, insulted me and slammed the door in my face.

That's not normal is it? I come from such a fucked up background it's hard to know sometimes.

All of the finances are on me. All of the cleaning is on me. I cook but only a few times a week because I don't trust the state he leaves the kitchen in. If I sound like Mrs. Bucket - I'm not. It's made both of us ill multiple times and he acknowledges this. He gets really angry if I don't cook lunch for him.

I'm making plans to leave. I'm only here because I know he wouldn't cope without me. It wasn't always like this. I just find it hard to know why someone can have an offer of a trip away and flip like that.

He knew I was upset and came in to explain why he doesn't want to go. He feels unwell and tired.

That's fine. That's an answer.

No thank you - maybe another time. Fine.

I'm sick of being made to feel like a monster when I just try to be nice.

Oh boy. Please get rid of this waste of space before he hits you OP

Please leave this man, OP, and find the happiness you deserve, he won't change.

I have so many questions but firstly he sounds like an absolute twunt you’re well rid
you will be so much happier without him

also, why do you need to go somewhere you can get back quickly ? What’s the story there? Have you been away together before? Why is he always ill/tired ?

He gets really angry if I don't cook lunch for him.

What is he, a toddler?!

I wouldn't be staying past lunchtime with a man like that.

Please bin him. He’s awful. You’re wasting your money, your time and your life on a complete cunt.

Do you have kids? If not get out of there right now and never have sex with this man again. Very easy LTB

Take yourself away, use the time to rest and advance your plans to get out.

Leave now!

Don't let him emotionally manipulate you. He'd cope perfectly fine. Dump him ASAP and take your self on a spa weekend.

Of course he'll cope without you and anyway it wouldn't be your problem if he didn't

What do you mean that he wouldn't cope without you? When you met him was he an alien that was dying in a ditch unless Tiredsack would come along? Or was he just a man acting a bit useless (which is an act to train you).

He's an utter waster.
Kick the arsehole out of your life.

What, if anything, does he bring to the relationship?

Instead of a 1-2 night break with him, you need a lifetime break away from him. He’s not a partner, he’s an abusing twat.

You need to get out, right now.

He would cope without you. He really would. This relationship doesn't sound healthy

@Rumplestrumpet This is the thing I guess. That lack of stability inside.

Thank you everyone, I'm reading and trying to take it all in.

Some people asked why he wouldn't cope. I honestly think he just would not. I don't say that to him, obviously. It's the worry that keeps me here.

Of course he would cope without you. Just leave.

So you pay for everything, and clean and cook because he's a slob? Is he a slob?
Leave Pronto!

It's the worry that keeps me here

You don't owe him this worry.

Please leave this man, he brings absolutely nothing to your relationship, apart from demands upon you. He will cope without you; and your life will be so much better without him in it.

I think some of it is feigned strategic incompetence to make you feel needed and therefor stay.

It's a known phenomenon.

Why are you worried - is he not an adult and does he not have family? How long do you plan to be his carer, mother?

How did he survive before you got together? Unless he has some disabilities requiring support he will use google and figure stuff out by himself.

@tiredsack these types of men do coke. By usually finding another woman very quickly.