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BF just slammed the door on me for suggesting an overnight break.

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tiredsack · 03/11/2022 16:54

I'm so tired.

I suggested to my partner that we go on a 1-2 night stay somewhere local.That way we can travel back quickly/easily if we need to. Not a big holiday, just an overnight break.

This would be on me.

My bf screamed at me, insulted me and slammed the door in my face.

That's not normal is it? I come from such a fucked up background it's hard to know sometimes.

All of the finances are on me. All of the cleaning is on me. I cook but only a few times a week because I don't trust the state he leaves the kitchen in. If I sound like Mrs. Bucket - I'm not. It's made both of us ill multiple times and he acknowledges this. He gets really angry if I don't cook lunch for him.

I'm making plans to leave. I'm only here because I know he wouldn't cope without me. It wasn't always like this. I just find it hard to know why someone can have an offer of a trip away and flip like that.

He knew I was upset and came in to explain why he doesn't want to go. He feels unwell and tired.

That's fine. That's an answer.

No thank you - maybe another time. Fine.

I'm sick of being made to feel like a monster when I just try to be nice.

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Tallisimo · 05/11/2022 13:47

You keep insisting he won’t cope without you. Of course he will. But actually, even if he finds it hard, that’s not down to you. It’s time to put yourself and your needs first. Please listen to what everyone here is saying and get out of this deeply unbalanced, unhappy relationship.

Gilead · 05/11/2022 14:17

Ex Dh was arrested. I put up with what you are coping with for more than 20 years, because he wouldn’t cope alone. A miracle happened. All of a sudden he could cook, shop, clean, use a washing machine. It was as if someone had flipped a switch in his brain! Lazy nasty git.
Leave, he will be fine, he acts the way he does because he knows that you will get in with the things he’s too nbone idle to do.

PS. I love my new life away from him. As do the (adult) dc.

Fraaahnces · 06/11/2022 01:43

Do you need him to need you more than you need to GTF out of there?

tiredsack · 06/11/2022 09:30

@monsteramunch I'll try and think about that. Sincerely.

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