To ask if I should reply to this weird Facebook message?

[thalita605]

Just that really.

Been with DP for 2.5 years, we have an 8mo together and our relationship is good and he's a good dad to DD. He's currently working away and this afternoon I had a message request on FB from what I assume is a teenage boy, although he doesn't have any pictures himself on his account, unless he's made it all private. He said he was DP’s son, he doesn't know if DP has told me about him but he wants to meet. I don't know if this is genuine or not, as he's never mentioned a son, neither has MIL, I've not met other family members as he doesn't speak to them.

I'm not sure if I should reply or not, part of me doesn't think I should but another part things I should. WWYD?

Sounds true. I would reply if it was to you

No speak to dp

I’d have a word with my partner first and then decide together if and to respond

No. It's weird.
Why would he want to meet you suddenly?

I would reply to get his name, mum's name and his dob. Then I would do a little digging, and only then I would tell DP when I had the facts.

Speak to your DP

I’d respond. You haven’t been with your boyfriend for long and it sounds like things moved quickly in your relationship so not unheard of that a man would keep secrets in a situation like this.

Id speak to DP

DH & I had just the same thing happen. Both got message from his “son” wanting to meet. The facts he gave tallied & we followed up. It was true - a son he never knew about & was not told about (ex lived in another city). This was just before we got together. Worked out ok & we have a relationship.

It’s not unheard of, my exes son got in contact with him 10 years later via Facebook, though he was aware of him but hadn’t seen him since he was 4 (he didn’t tell me he had a child when we first met) his son sent him a message on Facebook I imagine it’s more common than people think

I can see why he’s an ex @SpinningFloppa

Talk to partner first. X

Definitely speak to your partner.

Tell dp ASAP.

I’ve got his name but his surname isn't the same as DP’s. I'm sure DP will just agree it's weird, as even if this boy was telling the truth, DP has hidden it for 2.5 years so I'm not sure why he’d admit now. I'm not sure if I believe him, but he does know DP’s name which he couldve gotten off of my posts but if he's lying then why as I think it's a weird thing to lie about.

I've spoken to DP today, and he said he doesn't know who this boy is. It was over text though as he's still working away

This is a standard scam/prank. Seen it loads of times. Ignore.

Yeah it’s really wierd a kid would want to meet their dad 🙄

How can you possibly know that? What utter tosh.

Sure you have,

I'd be suspicious and do some digging. Can you view the boys Facebook profile? Does it look like a genuine profile?

I would be suspicious too! Do some more digging and ask some questions

whats the scam?

Same as many others sadly, establish a rapport and then there is some sort of crisis that only cash can fix!

Could be true though no way to know without exploring 🤷🏻‍♀️

No I absolutely wouldn’t reply.

And neither would I assume that dp was lying.

If this lad is his son then he can prove it by doing a DNA test. Otherwise I would block him.