How often do you have fights with your other half?

[bookworm1982]

I'm talking like shouting in each other's faces. My husband and I have been together for twenty years. We seem to do it a few times a year. Otherwise we get on well. He thinks it's normal. Is it?

Never. We do disagree at times, but we don't get in each other's faces at all.

We're not shouty people, so never. We do have disagreements from time to time of course, but we've never got in each others faces. 30 years together.

We don't.

About once a year for us

Probably the same as you. Its good to have a blow put every once in a while. It's almost always over something trivial, clears the air.

I'm from a very emotional family with lots of loud rowing followed by even louder reconciliation.

Never. We snap every so often with a slightly pissy tone (usually when under high stress), but have never shouted and every disagreement is forgotten within the hour.

Never, I hate arguing and wouldn’t choose a life where it would happen. Screaming in someone’s face is really extreme, I can’t imagine anyone who purports to love and cherish a person screaming in their face. Why not simply disagree about a topic? Is one of you in particular driving this behaviour?

Never. There is nothing acceptable about this.

Shouting in each others' faces? Never - we've been together nearly 20 years. We don't shout at each other.

I can count on one hand the number of things I'd label "major disagreements." It's not that we don't disagree, it's just that both of us prefer to talk our way around the subject and neither of us shout.

Literally never. We bicker occasionally. Usually because he’s forgotten to do something trivial but annoying like put the bins out but then make up pretty much immediately. I don’t think we’ve ever shouted at each other.

At least fortnightly. We’re both sweary shouty passionate people. 17 years and still going strong. I’d be worried more if we didn’t.

I have never done this with my current partner or any other I have had in the past.

If you are shouting in each other's faces then there is something wrong - communication has broken down somewhere for it to get to that level.

Me and dh have never shouted in each others faces.

Hmmm no I don’t think we have ever shouted in each other’s faces. We might have a spat where voices could be raised but even that is rare. Obviously we have disagreements, but we are fairly good at talking those through and trying to find common ground.

Never. I wouldn’t stay with somebody who thought shouting and aggression was a good way to communicate, even when angry or upset, and I wouldn’t expect them to stay with me. You need to find better ways to work through disagreements. If you have DC this is an awful example for them.

Yikes! Never.

I find it more weird when people say they never argue.

Used to be all the time, since having DD, it's now very rare. Lost my s*t though today as DD is unwell and the day has gone from bad to worse. Went absolutely bat s*t, although via text as DD was in the car ☺️

Never, and been together 30 years. Very rarely argue, a couple of disagreements but nothing more. We are both reasonable adults so there is always a compromise to be had.

Lots of couples might disagree with each other but don’t need to necessarily have a fight about it. It’s not about “never having a argument” more about how they deal with a situation.

On threads like this there’s always people who say they don’t understand how couples can not argue. I choose happiness and peace and calm, I wouldn’t get past one date with a man who was volatile, or with whom I fundamentally disagreed with major things on. I am lucky to have no major financial worries, and my family is childfree, so there aren’t the major stress points that a lot of people have.

Screaming in someone’s face is awful.

I can't imagine choosing to marry someone who screams in my face tbh. I def can't imagine staying married to one who does it semi regularly

21 years and never have. We’ve probably had 2 proper arguments since getting married, as in they took a couple of days to move on from. Never shouted at each other. We do get along really well without having to try hard. Lucky.

Never. I've properly shouted/sworn at him once. My mum was dying and he rather gormlessly said the wrong thing at the wrong time. Not really his fault. He's never shouted at me. He is unusually even tempered though. He's almost never shouted at the (now almost grown-up) kids whereas I certainly have. And I sometimes catch myself nit-picking at him in a way that would annoy me if I was in his place, but he doesn't rise to it.

Never. We have the odd bicker but nothing more really. Married almost 20 years.