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Original poster

Husband drove child at 120mph

231 replies

WeevilKnievel · 16/10/2022 09:00

Am I right to be upset? DS (10) came home last night all excited because daddy had driven him at 120mph on the (70) dual carriageway.
I'm furious, apart from risking our child's life and everyone else's. He's setting a stupid example for in a few years and DS learns to drive.
H thinks this is reasonable as he's a good driver ( better than anyone else of course) - his words

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Fastandlupine · 16/10/2022 09:01

What a Cock

CheshireCats · 16/10/2022 09:01

Interesting user name in regard to this post...

DelorisVC · 16/10/2022 09:02

He is a twat.

asdadult · 16/10/2022 09:02

Well, he won't be driving DS anywhere again, will he.

Oysterbabe · 16/10/2022 09:02

Yanbu. He wouldn't be taking the child out in the car alone when it could be avoided in future.

Letsrunabath · 16/10/2022 09:03

Absolute Idiot, sorry but I would never be with such a dickhead.

Ohwellwhateverthen · 16/10/2022 09:03

Eh, couldn't get worked up about this as a one-off. I still remember as a young teen driving home from somewhere with my dad at night, loooonnnng straight stretch of empty motorway, and my dad saying "how fast do you reckon we can go?" Car only made it to 102mph but it was the coolest thing we'd ever done together and one of my favourite memories of my dad. He's also always said he's likely the best driver on the road, and he's objectively right. I drive now and have never displayed any terrifying speeding tendencies.

DelorisVC · 16/10/2022 09:04

I hate this notion that just because you're a "better driver than everyone else" Hmm you get to break speed limits set by people who know what they're doing actually try and stop people from killing each other.

Lauren1983 · 16/10/2022 09:04

He is an idiot. Even if he was the best driver that ever existed (highly doubtful) that doesn't make a difference to the actions or abilities of everyone else on the road.

I hope someone has caught him on dashcam and reports him.

LuckyLil · 16/10/2022 09:06

Hopefully he will have been caught on camera.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 16/10/2022 09:06

He's a twat and he put your child's life at risk. And of course, the lives of other road users.

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WeevilKnievel · 16/10/2022 09:10

Unfortunately, he speeds regularly, ( generally not to this degree) but not a completely isolated incident and I'm sure was doing the whole let's see how fast we can go. But what a stupid stupid thing to do with an impressionable child. He's in his 50's fgs. Obviously never going to grow up and stop being so arrogant. Just not sure how to stop it happening again..

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SarahR2022 · 16/10/2022 09:11

Wow....youre all feeling a bit holier than thou this morning arent you....how many of us drive with the kids in the back....completely distracted by moaning arguing wailing kids looking in the rear view mirror rather than at the roa ahead....come on....at least he would have been focussed on what he was doing at 120mph....Im not condoning it at all Im just saying you should all stop being so judgemental about it....unless youre all perfect obvs

JiminyGrey · 16/10/2022 09:11

A man doing exactly 120 mph on an empty (apart from me) dual carriageway, lost control of his car on a tiny spot of gravel. He hit my car which caused him to veer off the road. He died. The police told me I was lucky to have survived.

This guy saw a stretch of open road and put his foot down. He had a fast car and undoubtedly thought of himself as a great driver.

I think he was a first class idiot and thank god he didn’t have any passengers in the car that he could have killed too.

Dotcheck · 16/10/2022 09:14

SarahR2022 · 16/10/2022 09:11

Wow....youre all feeling a bit holier than thou this morning arent you....how many of us drive with the kids in the back....completely distracted by moaning arguing wailing kids looking in the rear view mirror rather than at the roa ahead....come on....at least he would have been focussed on what he was doing at 120mph....Im not condoning it at all Im just saying you should all stop being so judgemental about it....unless youre all perfect obvs

How is that the same? OPs husband PURPOSELY did something dangerous

DelorisVC · 16/10/2022 09:16

SarahR2022 · 16/10/2022 09:11

Wow....youre all feeling a bit holier than thou this morning arent you....how many of us drive with the kids in the back....completely distracted by moaning arguing wailing kids looking in the rear view mirror rather than at the roa ahead....come on....at least he would have been focussed on what he was doing at 120mph....Im not condoning it at all Im just saying you should all stop being so judgemental about it....unless youre all perfect obvs

Errrm no.

EmmiJay · 16/10/2022 09:23

My dad did this with me and my sisters when we were younger too. Hugely thrilling for us, bollocking from mum for him. He once also took us between train carriages whilst the train was moving 😬 Some parent's aren't the brightest when it comes to safety. Created some wild core memories though.

CecilyP · 16/10/2022 09:24

Obviously never going to grow up and stop being so arrogant. Just not sure how to stop it happening again.

Hopefully when he’s caught and gets a driving ban. Happened to a friend who was only expecting penalty points but he got an immediate ban instead.

CarefreeMe · 16/10/2022 09:26

Nope.
He’s a pathetic idiot trying to show off to a child, it’s makes me cringe even thinking about it.

If he wants to speed and risk his own life, fair enough. But do it on a race track.

Don’t put his child’s and other road users lives at risk because he’s got small dick syndrome.

DiddlyDoris · 16/10/2022 09:30

SarahR2022 · 16/10/2022 09:11

Wow....youre all feeling a bit holier than thou this morning arent you....how many of us drive with the kids in the back....completely distracted by moaning arguing wailing kids looking in the rear view mirror rather than at the roa ahead....come on....at least he would have been focussed on what he was doing at 120mph....Im not condoning it at all Im just saying you should all stop being so judgemental about it....unless youre all perfect obvs

Then teach your kids how potentially dangerous it is to misbehave in the car! The drivers focus and attention to the road is paramount and kids also need to understand that. Also, pull over as soon as safe to do so if you're allowing yourself to be this distracted!

Hugasauras · 16/10/2022 09:33

Sad old bastard, thinking he's Lewis Hamilton. He wouldn't be driving my child again. Absolute tool.

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 16/10/2022 09:35

He may be a great driver. But even a great driver will struggle at 120pmh if something goes wrong with their car (tyre blows or something), there is random debris on the road, an animal runs into the road etc. Being a good driver doesnt negate the risk of going 50mph faster than the speed limit.

Yes I sometimes get distracted with the kids in the back. This is a natural human reaction to a situation not a deliberate putting them in danger

CandyCaneLane0 · 16/10/2022 09:36

Unforgivable, what a twat

YellowTreeHouse · 16/10/2022 09:46

Why are you letting your child in the car with him if he speeds regularly then?

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WeevilKnievel · 16/10/2022 09:49

How is it practical to not let my children in the car with their father? He's their father, he can take them in the car when he likes, I can't physically or otherwise stop him. Even if we were divorced how would that work when it's his time with them?

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