Husband drove child at 120mph

[WeevilKnievel]

Am I right to be upset? DS (10) came home last night all excited because daddy had driven him at 120mph on the (70) dual carriageway.
I'm furious, apart from risking our child's life and everyone else's. He's setting a stupid example for in a few years and DS learns to drive.
H thinks this is reasonable as he's a good driver ( better than anyone else of course) - his words

I'd agree if on a main road🤣. Motorways however, not so much. There is much research about increasing the speed limit on motorways and very little of it is about risk as the risk isn't greatly increased. It's more focussed on fuel usage, cost of changing signage, etc.

If it was a quick blip up to 120 then back down again I couldnt get worked up. Prolonged driving at that speed is a bit different

What an utter bellend.

You don't hit 120mph as a quick blip??!!!

Seriously.

I have on a motorbike ,faster actually. Any decent car doesnt take much effort to hit 120. Not my car though it's a 18 diesel

18yr old diesel

You will end up banned or dead. Choice is yours.

Banned maybe . Dead nope. I dont equate speed alone to be dangerous, add other factors yes definitely.

Or option 3 the result of which most speeding has.

Nothing, no victims no consequences.

Well Good luck with that! You sound like an idiot, more so if you take your children with you as well. agrudge

Would you do those speeds with a kid in the car @Agrudge? If not, why not?

No. As I stated above my car would struggle to hit that speed

I meant in principle @Agrudge but nevermind.

I think this thread just has two types of people - those who think the risks of high speeding are worth it and those who think they aren't.

Horses for courses, I just find it so selfish that those who think the risk is worth it aren't just taking that risk on their own behalf but also that of other people on the roads too.

Agree to disagree I guess.

I knew what you meant. Its actually very rare I go above 85mph.

Have you explained the consequences of the police stopping him going at that speed with children on board ? I can't imagine it would have great consequences even without kids, but with kids on board as well then I can imagine the police would take it a lot more seriously. I don't know for sure, but maybe it could be considered reckless endangerment of a childs life and social services could become involved.

If he is into racing then he really should be doing track days, and if he wants to introduce his kids to racing he would be better off taking them karting and track days than driving them down roads at crazy speeds.

I feel that strongly about speeding (& drink driving) I would never let my DC get in a car with him again. Totally & utterly reckless & selfish.

Would you feel same way if someone was driving faster than 70 on a road you could do it legally ?

Are you sure he did? I remember as a child coming home all excited as my nanny said she had driven my down my road at 100mph. It would be impossible to get up to more than about 40 absolute maximum on that road.

I’m sorry, I don’t fully understand your question but if my DP was doing 120mph then my child wouldn’t ever get in their car again. 120mph is way above any speed limit.

Would be ok with your partner driving a 100 on the auto bahn? Where it's legal

No I wouldn’t be ok, I think 100mph is too fast with a child in the vehicle. When my child is in the car, I want slow & steady! There’s no rush & the roads are full of in the U.K. & 100+mph isn’t necessary in my
opinion.

Couldn't get too worked up about this, it's about as dangerous as letting them ride up on your shoulders, you could drop them and break their neck. It is fate. If they are back safe, all's well in the end.

Depends on your car. When I first got mine, I put my foot down on a short slip on to the motorway and I surprised myself that I was doing 120 by the time I merged. Haven't driven that fast since but some cars can very easily and quickly get that fast, and is doesn't feel that quick in them either.

You can always be relied to make everything a woman's fault.

He is the child's father, OP can't stop him taking him out.

And she has already said she will do the driving from now on. And now you'll find a way to blame her for that too. 👏

I wouldn't do it and am not advising it, but some people are a bit OTT about the danger. I'd say a brief blast at 120mph on a straight road is certainly less dangerous than letting your child ride a horse for an hour.

Then I really hope that risk assessments are not a part of your job. Horse riding injuries form a triangle. At the base you have a comparatively larger number of minor injuries - broken fingers, bruised feet. You then go on up through injuries which are more severe but less likely until at the top you have a very small number of KSIs. The vast majority of those will be incurred during three day events or racing, not a lead rein lesson on Dobbin at the local riding school.

If you're assessing the chance of injury in a car at 120 mph, the bottom of that triangle is entirely gone and you're just left with the tip - the KSIs. So yes, it's more dangerous to ride a horse for an hour in the sense that you're more likely to break your arm riding a horse. But if you're assessing the risk of being killed or seriously injured, the risks are much closer and you'd need to look at the data to work out which is riskier.

Personally I think part of the problem with over-engineered cars is that they disconnect you from the reality of the risks. You feel much safer than you actually are. Human senses haven't evolved to make judgements at those speeds. And our bodies haven't evolved to cope with those injuries. Fall off a horse at 20mph and your ribcage will protect your organs. Crash at 120mph and your ribcage is toast.