Husband drove child at 120mph

[WeevilKnievel]

Am I right to be upset? DS (10) came home last night all excited because daddy had driven him at 120mph on the (70) dual carriageway.
I'm furious, apart from risking our child's life and everyone else's. He's setting a stupid example for in a few years and DS learns to drive.
H thinks this is reasonable as he's a good driver ( better than anyone else of course) - his words

Even in a Golf GTI you can get to 120 pretty fast. In things like Teslas and powerful BMW/Merc etc it's the blink of an eye.

Just because it can get there fast, if you don't know when you hit speed limit you aren't observant.

Oh and just because you drive a truck in snow and ice has no bearing on if you are a good driver or not.

He’s a first class wanker for doing that.

I doubt he would voluntarily attend any kind of speed awareness course but perhaps you could find some materials on YouTube to show him what happens to himself and others at that speed. Or even 100mph. And then ask him how he’d feel about killing your son or someone else’s.

I don't understand the logic that because it can happen in the blink of an eye, its somehow more acceptable, bloody hell I'll just have a few glasses of wine before driving, easily done

Someone I know used to do this with his kids. The 2 kids have turned out to be absolute boy racers and regularly put themselves in dangerous situations on the road, speed, and have terrible road rage - I believe they learned all this from their dad. Now mid-twenties, they've both been involved in several accidents. They also both have a slight vision problem which makes it even worse that their attitude to driving is so bad.

I agree it sets a very bad example to kids. My friend's husband is like this. He drives like a maniac and has done since their sons were tiny.

One of the sons was like his dad. He wrote off 3 cars in his first year of driving. One involved clipping a roundabout at a hell of a speed and rolling the car over with 4 friends on board, how none of them were badly injured I have no idea. He eventually got banned, but it was for being asleep, pissed, in the back of his car. Once he got his licence back, he was much more careful and is pretty sensible now.

His brother was the complete opposite, always careful and sensible and did his advanced test as soon as he could. He said he didn't want to be a dickhead like his dad.

How his dad has never lost his licence, I have no idea. He had 6 or 9 points when he was caught by a speed trap, doing 110mph on his motorbike, along a road that everyone in the county knows is a popular place for speed traps. He hired the proverbial shit-hot lawyer who somehow managed to get him off with a massive fine.

You know that some people have their kids out on tracks every weekend and doing other dangerous stuff don't you. The only thing I would be bothered about here is that he might have killed or injured someone else, but then that could happen on a racetrack too or at 60mph.
We have always had fast cars and the kids have always been driven fast in them, on and off track.
Dangerous thing life.

great post

What an inane comment.

Any half decent driver will be well aware of the speed they are going. I have never driven a car that has gotten to 120mph without me having a chance to realise and slow down. If you have then I'd suggest you have extremely slow reactions.

OP, your husband is a cunt. I’d be tempted to bring this up again and record him saying all that he’s said already. Then you have evidence of a sort should you ever need to use it.

If he was caught by the police doing that speed with a kid in the car he would not only lose his licence for several years but would most likely be getting a good chunk of community service/unpaid work to do too. Shame that didn't happen.

I'd seriously be considering whether to let my ds get in a car with him again and explain why to ds in front of dh about the risk he is taking with both their lives.

That would be the end for me.
Finished.

He has put your child's life at risk, and and modelled the most appalling example of driving. He would not be seeing my children outside a contact centre.

I hope he is banned - it is an immediate ban for any speeds over 100mph

I would leave my DH if he did this. Parent fail.

He would be charged with dangerous driving which actually carries a custodial sentence. Aggravated by a child being in the car. I would also expect to see a social services investigation.

This is so far from good parenting. I would look into legal advice tomorrow op. Your husband could have killed your child so very easily.

I would absolutely not still be with DH or allow him to drive my child in his car after this

I’m so lucky. My husband is actually an excellent driver.

I was hit up the back of my car when I had to do an emergency stop as a lady on a bike crossed the road. Some guy who reckoned he was going 30mph hit me from behind but I hit something at such an angle it flipped my car 5 times and landed on the roof. It took them 6 hours to cut me out and I spent a few weeks in hospital.

that was at 30 and I dread to think what would of happened at 70. Let alone 120…..

friend of mine was in a crash at 80 and got decapitated at that speed. Scares the shit out of me. She was 17 and lost her life due to someone driving irrationally.

I'm so sorry you were frightened by this, just have to communicate with your husband speed limit only when your child is in the car.

My son is 29 now but I still remember him at 7 running into the house having been dropped off by his friend's playdate Dad. He was so excited they'd done '90' on the minor road between our villages. I didn't ever let the Dad drive him home again.

Unless he has successfully completed institute of advanced motorist, blue light driving and blue light pursuit driving courses, and received race driver training he is unlikely to be suitably competent to drive at 120mph. Even if he had done those things it would still be hugely illegal and dangerous - especially with a child in the car. I'd also bet if he had done those things he probably wouldn't have driven like that with a child in the car. Funnily enough part of the criteria for being an excellent drivers is not driving at 120mph with a kid in the car.

Like some other PP, I am married to someone who regularly extracts people (or bits of people) from crashed vehicles and sees up close the aftermath. Absolutely horrific. None of those people ever thought it would happen to them. I bet lots of them thought they were excellent drivers too.

I just looked up the stopping distance at 120 mph. It's 895 feet!

Change your car insurance so his car has a black box fitted and a mandatory dash cam as part of the insurance. That will stop him driving like an idiot.

Me too. I would be sending him speeding out the door if he were my husband.

But that's their choice with their kids. The OP hasn't made that choice with their child.

Of course life is dangerous but some people like to mitigate that risk.

The fact that the OP's DH is risking other people's lives too is a big deal.

ditto...anyone has seen the headlines weeks ago about this car ending up on the tracks at Park Royal station....one of his passenger got killed on the spot and a Uber driver who just happened to be charging his car had a very lucky escape that night.

I've been weevilknievel on here for many years 😂 nothing to do with my speeding husband

I was going to say this. This is exactly what my father would (and has) done in the past!

Unfortunately it was 120mph, probably would've been more if the car allowed

Aconitum, so given as you say life is dangerous, are you just picking and choosing which rules to keep or laws to abide by? Where do you draw the line?