Husband drove child at 120mph

[WeevilKnievel]

Am I right to be upset? DS (10) came home last night all excited because daddy had driven him at 120mph on the (70) dual carriageway.
I'm furious, apart from risking our child's life and everyone else's. He's setting a stupid example for in a few years and DS learns to drive.
H thinks this is reasonable as he's a good driver ( better than anyone else of course) - his words

120kph is 75mph - are you sure that your DH didn't pull a fast one on the child?

My dh did this with dd when we changed cars - in the U.K. Not quite so fast though, I think it was about 100 mph and when the road was clear, weather fine etc. We used to live somewhere, where there was no speed limit for about 1/3 of motorways so driving at 160 - 180 kph (100-112 mph) was very normal for us and he therefore has a lot of experience with driving at speed. 120mph is 193kph. I’ve definitely driven that fast before but not here as U.K. roads are not made for that speed and road users not used to someone driving at that speed. Yes, op I would be really pissed off at that speed. People regularly drive 100 mph here and although I wasn’t happy with my dh, it was a one off and the road is used regularly at that speed.

I do motorsport for a hobby. I have done every available advanced driving tuition for the highway, and had much instruction and experience racing.

It is endemic among the male population to believe they’re better than everyone else at driving, and to have an innate and entirely misplaced arrogance in their own abilities. As such, when I beat them on track, it is rarely acknowledged by them as they’re angry about it.

Men often use it to justify speeding and drink driving. “I’m not the problem, everyone else is.”

The fact is they’re not better. They’re deluded. And cocky. And driving on public roads at that speed is fucking horrendous. Doing it with a kid in the car is appalling.

I am a fan of speed but in appropriate settings. A dual carriageway with a child on board is not the place. I’d tell him I’d be informing social services and the police if the stupid cunt did it again.

Haha, no he didn't even deny it

He is an idiot.

Man-child.

Youre just making the point for me....which is that he did do it purposely and as such he was focussed on the task at hand....driving whilst distracted is in my opinion far more dangerous....all Im saying is that its a bit over the top to criticize if youre not perfect yourself....

120 mph or a 120 km/ph and a 10 year old who can't read the speedo?

Don't be so fucking stupid.

Yeah husband has done lots of racing too, go karting mainly and that explains him thinking he's good as he generally wins races unless someone is much lighter than him ( his words) I frequently have to tell him he's not on a go kart track when he's driving as that's generally how he drives. I wish I could stop him from driving the kids

Just trying to provide some balance to other posters who have said they would call social services and they hope he got caught by a speed camera....these are the same people who drive their kids to school, totally oblivious to how distracted they are and having had insufficient sleep....come on ladies lets not go overboard....

Can you report him / see if they can get the CCTV footage? Even without speed cameras at that speed should be obvious enough for a ticking off which may make him think twice on future.

I’d be reporting to the police. Not letting my child in a car with him again and looking to separate unless he agrees to work on his dangerous driving.

not doing the above shows a total lack of care about your child’s life. It’s not just your husband putting your child’s life in danger, you are too for doing fuck all about it.

disgusting

You could report him to the police, who should take his license away.

Totally agree and take the good driver bit with a pinch of salt. That's generally a male construct to put women in their place. There are so many variables involved in any rtc that I wouldn't even know where to begin but I wouldn't allow my child in the car with a driver like this.

He sounds like an arsenal sorry.120 mph means it's virtually impossible to drive safely. All he needs is to hit a patch of oil , have a blowout or something. Maybe ask his parents to have a word if he won't listen to you .sounds like a manchild!

The reality is that there are drivers liable to a moment of distraction. Some recklessly so like using a phone, some might be momentarily focused on another aspect of driving like looking ar a road sign. You can never assume that other drivers are being focused and attentive with good reactions. 100mph, 120mph is so fast and out of line with the normal range of driving speeds that it takes very little for another driver to fail to observe and anticpate someone approaching.

Even with good attention, it's easy for a driver to think they've got plenty of time to pull out and overtake at 70-80mph having observed a vehicle in the distance and then wonder why they've suddenly got a vehicle storming up their rear because it's such a major speed difference of 50/ 40mph above the flow of faster traffic and double slower moving vehicles.

It's also very vulnerable to any randomness in the road surface, debris, animals, puncture.
Racetracks are more controlled environments for high speed but still not 100% safe. That's the place to satisfy the urge for excessive speed.

Would you let them in the car with him if he was a drink driver?

Realistically if he drives like this often he's going to lose his license at some stage. I'd just hope that happens before he kills or maims my child.
He's driving dangerously and you really can't afford to be so compliant about it.

Meh. No one died. If it was a quick blip up to 120 then down to 70 again, whatever. If it was 120 for miles along a dual carriageway then he's a total bellend and Darwins law will take care of him eventually.

Theres probably a lot more far dangerous driving at lower speeds on UK roads. I see enough of it daily.

You are being very passive.

He has to be annoying in other areas of your lives if he’s like this as a driver. What else is unpleasant about him?

But what about what about what about. It's like talking about the risks of smoking and saying well yeah, but what about obesity? Contextual discussions are interesting but you can't just sweepingly dismiss one risk in describing another. That reeks of justification rather than acknowledgment.

It's always twats who claim they're good drivers. Good drivers know their cars, the possibilities for the unexpected and have a healthy respect for all road users and their passengers. This never equates to 120mph while your 10yr old is in the back.

DH gets to scrape good drivers off the road on a regular basis. Or their victims. What larks, eh?

Twat.

well.. you could ring up the local cop shop and ask one of the nice police people to come round and have a word with your husband with your son in the room.

A bit extreme perhaps but driving your kid at 120mph is epic levels of stupid, so..

Irrespective of how good of a driver he is, it only takes on bad driver doing something idiotic to kill him and your child. There's much less time to react at those speeds.

I'm a very good driver too. I've had a car written off. Even though I was badly concussed I remember the lovely policeman with the racy red police car (red's my favourite colour) saying it was my excellent driving that meant it wasn't a mass collision. I was 10 cars back at a red light. I was on a bridge - single lane each way with oncoming traffic. Watched the guy behind me for 800m or so. He didn't brake. Slammed onto me at 60km/hr. Took out my petrol tank (had just filled up that morning so was very cranky about that), buckled the chassis. Car in front of me was only lightly touched - she had no panel damage at all. My car was a write off as was the guy who hit me.

That's a good idea actually. It's not only the act itself it's also the example he's setting. When DS gets to 17 is he going to try the same as soon as he can..