Friend dismissive about holiday

[Gezunteit1]

My partner and I are going on what is a holiday in a lifetime for us, never flown long-haul before and we've saved a lot for this.
I told a friend we were going (her and her husband are on high incomes)
And she just said, "That's nice but really not the sort of place I'd choose, it's somewhere I'd go to take a few pictures but that's it, it's far too fake and artificial (it's not Dubai) .
"Personally I prefer somewhere like X long haul expensive place"
That's good for her, and it doesn't have to be everyone's cup of tea but why the need to say that and try and put a dampener on it?
It's like if a family were going to Blackpool (I know its rep but I like it) i wouldn't go "Oh it's far too tacky and rough there, I prefer the Cotswolds myself"
I'd just keep my mouth shut and let them be happy about it.

Could it be that some of them have been criticized for being too sedentary and not sufficiently outdoorsy. and are on the defensive? No excuse for taking it out on you; but it may not be just snobbery.

Not by me.

No, I meant they may have been criticized by others and taken it out on you,

I see your 3 sheds and raise you 3 sheds, 4 wood sheds and a kennel (and no I’m not posh my OH is just obsessed with making things from pallets 🤦🏼‍♀️)

Sorry was replying to PP I am new to MN and have no idea what I’m doing 🤦🏼‍♀️

This reminds me of a neighbour who when we were having an argument about whether I should have a tree cut down which is next to her fence, thought it the right time to inform me that she only shopped at Waitrose. Still bemused as to why that was relevant.

She’s upset you are doing something exciting. She’s trying to put you back in your place as she has you firmly in the poor friend category.

We had a friend like this. Our finances are now pretty good and it happened gradually without us obviously talking to anyone about it. Both got better jobs etc. We turned up to a BBQ and friend spotted us arriving in a new car. As soon as we walked in “gosh how did YOU afford a (car?)”

A couple of other spiteful comments later and we are no longer friends. She simply couldn’t bear the fact that we are doing well now.

For the record the car wasn’t anything particularly fancy but she had clearly categorised us as the friends who never had much money.

Just tell her you appreciate her input but it is you going in the holiday not you & you are looking forward to it.

Nice that she has the luxury of being able to to pick & choose where she goes on holiday. With so many destinations visited I am surprised she didn’t offer to help you with this information before you booked yours.
Go enjoy your holiday, make it your own, find places there that aren’t commercialised, if you get there & find it like that, & she sounds like a right snob.

OMG I love it 😍Suggest that he starts a hobby business seeking pallet makes 👍 Will keep your home from filling with pallet things then you’ll have your own business too. Aren’t partners & people so funny sometimes.

I have very little, disabled & unable to work, but I’d give my last £1 away if it meant someone else was happy, safe or less worried about something. I used to be very active & the helper to all. I have supported so many over my lifetime yet find my self without help in my time of need as I have yet to find a me to help me.
I’ll never have financial or property security & my life will always be stressful, despite the fact that I need as little stress in my life as possible, but right now it is my life & the only thing I would change is my disability.

I’ve known & met people with money. Many are tight as ducks arses & not very nice or giving unless that giving comes with an accolade or massive recognition for them.

Enjoy your sheds & having a man around the house that can do things. It is annoying at times but it is better than having no one or a lazy oaf.
❤
Welcome to Mumsnet too 💐

I’d have just replied with a shrug “we all like different things” and forgotten all about it. In my friendship group we could say that we’d prefer something different and it wouldn’t mean that we aren’t happy that the friend is happy.

I think New York too. My cousin goes every opportunity she gets but her brother lives there so she has a home from home base & a personal guide to all things really New York.
It used to be on my list of places to visit but with my disability it will probably never happen now.
Lucky if I’ll get on a plane & go anywhere ever again 🙁
Life is cruel at times but I’m still here & hoping OP has a brilliant holiday.

@Gezunteit1 When you are back from your holiday you need to let us know how it went & we’ll help you prepare responses for jealous, snobby friend 😘

Thankyou for the warm welcome! 😊 yes it definitely is lovely having someone who can actually do things ExDP was a bit of a pillock and wouldn’t lift a finger.

I also have made the same assumption about those with money, not all of course but many I have encountered are “out for themselves” and not to help people purely because it’s a nice thing to do. I hope you find your ‘person’ who will help make your life a little easier ☺️