Friend dismissive about holiday

[Gezunteit1]

My partner and I are going on what is a holiday in a lifetime for us, never flown long-haul before and we've saved a lot for this.
I told a friend we were going (her and her husband are on high incomes)
And she just said, "That's nice but really not the sort of place I'd choose, it's somewhere I'd go to take a few pictures but that's it, it's far too fake and artificial (it's not Dubai) .
"Personally I prefer somewhere like X long haul expensive place"
That's good for her, and it doesn't have to be everyone's cup of tea but why the need to say that and try and put a dampener on it?
It's like if a family were going to Blackpool (I know its rep but I like it) i wouldn't go "Oh it's far too tacky and rough there, I prefer the Cotswolds myself"
I'd just keep my mouth shut and let them be happy about it.

Def not Toyko or NY, they're not the kind of place the OP's mate would turn her nose up at. We do need to know 🤣

That’s rude of your friend . Also it’s so close minded . I’ve travelled all over the world - off the beaten path and also to the main touristy spots and I’ve been pleasantly surprised by what I’ve liked . For years I was put off by Hawaii because I thought it was over rated but years ago I had a wedding there ( as a guest )and it turned out to be one of the most beautiful places I’ve been ( tied with Santorini , Bolivia & the Grand Canyon). Interestingly, I recently had a friend who was underwhelmed by the Grand Canyon so there you go .

Don't assume your friend has money op.
I knew someone who lived the high life.
Long haul 1st class, new cars, changed decor regularly.
When she died she was in a lot of debt.
Some people live beyond their means but juggle it well.

She's a boring chip pisser.

This made me laugh, but it's true!

She is not jealous, she is just a plain old snob. I have met few like this. Just snobbery

I do like how everything on MN is explained by jealouy😂

Unnecessary. You are obviously the same kind of person as the OP's (former) friend.

How rude and snobbish she is.

Have a great holiday.

People who feel the need to act all superior like that often have low self esteem.
I'd make some new friends. Have a great holiday! X

The fact she even told you this is odd behaviour. I expect she is insecure in some way and likes to show off about money/being cultured etc to make herself feel better.

Is it Hong Kong? I lived there. It was wonderful.

I would just laugh and say "who cares you're not invited ". She's rude and will never change. Enjoy your holiday.

Why do you care so much about what she thinks?

just go and have a nice time.

I’m thinking LA or Tokyo.

Next time OP, you should say something like “why do you feel the need to make such rude comments, I would never think to critique your choices like that” and see what she says. Will make her look like the knob she is.

Have an amazing time!

Some people are massive holiday snobs. It's madness. Different people like different things, and have different budgets.

She sounds like a tit, with all the other comments she's making

Go and enjoy yourselves and relish the thought you'll not bump into her there

Why does it matter? People like different things for their holidays.

With friends like that.... honestly I'd distance her, she doesn't sound very nice. I've got 2 friends who can be like this at times. In both cases I think it's driven by insecurity and feeling the need to prove themselves. If they say stuff like this I distance them. They must know they do it. One time hilariously my friend said something in front of a man she was trying to impress, he then focused on me and she immediately realised her mean comment had massively backfired, she then started paying me loads of compliments was very funny.

Yeah exactly they like different things, so not sure why she can't see that too.

Unless op is doing something like a trip to the moon, other people will have been before and planning to go.

@averageavocado but all the details combined could be outing and linked to OP's previous posts

I know a family that lives like this. Seems to work well.

Is it Abu Dhabi or Qatar?

You are always going to come across people like this in life :-
Holiday snobs
Hotel snobs
Car snobs
School snobs
Oh I wouldn't do that. wouldn't go there... jog on.

I am a bit of a 'holiday snob'. I'd never go package or all inclusive, for example. However - I'd never mock a friend's holiday choice, we are all different and like different things.

A work colleague once gushed about my earrings. They were thick gold hoops about the size that would go on your little finger. They were nice but not the sort of thing that would make you go: "Wow!"

She asked to look at one so I took it off. She said: "Oh. They're hollow and cheap."

I was too stunned to get upset. I just said: "I suppose so" and laughed. How deep was her bitterness and envy of someone she sat next to in the office that she'd obviously been planning that for the day I'd wear those earrings again?. That level of obsession is actually distrubing and your so-called friend's comment about your holiday is exactly the same.

I still wear those earrings and every time i do I think of her and laugh. Do the same on your lovely holiday and make sure you send her lots of pictures.