Friend dismissive about holiday

[Gezunteit1]

My partner and I are going on what is a holiday in a lifetime for us, never flown long-haul before and we've saved a lot for this.
I told a friend we were going (her and her husband are on high incomes)
And she just said, "That's nice but really not the sort of place I'd choose, it's somewhere I'd go to take a few pictures but that's it, it's far too fake and artificial (it's not Dubai) .
"Personally I prefer somewhere like X long haul expensive place"
That's good for her, and it doesn't have to be everyone's cup of tea but why the need to say that and try and put a dampener on it?
It's like if a family were going to Blackpool (I know its rep but I like it) i wouldn't go "Oh it's far too tacky and rough there, I prefer the Cotswolds myself"
I'd just keep my mouth shut and let them be happy about it.

That was a crass thing to do - as is oversharing about her personal finances.

If she has form for this then she would find a way to try and feel superior to other people no matter how much or little she earnt or whatever holiday you were going on - some people are just like that, and utterly draining to be around in larges doses.

She's a shitty shed-lifer and no friend of yours!

This person isn’t a friend. I knew someone like this, we were friends for 10 years but over time it got worse and worse. It was constant put downs for example about my appearance and not so subtle digs at my expense. When I tried to explain it was ignored and I was told she was right and I was wrong. I blocked her and have not looked back. She went ballistic but then boundary pushers always get cross when you enforce the boundary. I don’t miss her at all and I’m glad she isn’t in my life anymore.

My advice would be to consider what you are getting out of this friendship because it will get worse. It destroyed my self esteem.

"I'd never go package"

🤣🤣🤣 imagine accepting a discount for booking a flight and accommodation at the same time. Ghastly

Peasants

Viva Las Vegas

If she made you feel down about a planned holiday, the whole purpose of which is to be a positive experience, then that was at best unthoughtful at at worst nasty.
As an aside, when recounting tales about others, I wish people would stop adding information as to whom they believe money belongs in a relationship that is not their own. If someone makes an unkind comment it adds no weight to say that this person "doesn't work", hasn't " amounted to much" or that it is their partner who is the high earner. It really makes me cringe,

Enjoy your holiday. Perhaps distance yourself from this judgemental woman and her ridiculous husband. Maybe one day they will realise that everyone is different and takes enjoyment from different things which don't have to be expensive or bragged about.

You need nicer friends, slowly distance yourself from this one

Snooty cow. Make her sit through 8000 holiday photos.

She sounds a dick. I agree with PPs that she is probably jealous of you in some way and is trying to feel better about herself. Ignore her and have a cracking time!

P.S. Vegas?

Why would she be jealous ffs??

A very good idea.

I'll admit I'm snobby about holidays, but I always keep it in my head! Just because I can't think of anything worse than an all inclusive pool holiday, doesn't mean it isn't someone else's well deserved dream.

Unless you're going on a passenger trip to space, odds are other people have been there too and it's not outing!

It's New York, isn't it.

You describe her as a friend, I wonder how she describes you? She sounds utterly tedious. only you know if she has other redeeming qualities that make listening to that kind of crap worth it.

I have this 'friend'. She's been downgraded to someone I catch up with in person about once every two years as we have people in common.

Her husband has a very successful career and they are financially extremely well off. This is common knowledge and good for them. Our house is worth about 10% the price of theirs. It doesn't bother me remotely.

She feels the need to remind me how wealthy they are on repeat everytime I speak to her. I find it utterly bizarre. Surely she's used to the money by now? Why does she keep bringing it up? She just comes across like an insecure tosser.

What a miserable response from your friend. I've given better replies to the bitchy women at work bragging about their cruises and I'd rather be locked in harry potters cupboard than go on a cruise

She doesn't sound like a very nice friend. Ignore her. She sounds vulgar as well, TBH, telling you that about her DH and his 4k in his account.

Ooh is it Vegas op?
If it is omg l am very jealous!!
Ignore her .... who gives a toss what she thinks?

Could be worse. I work on the railway. The other day a lady’s train was cancelled; checked her journey and said “It’s OK, take the xxxx train chance at ABC (happens to be my hometown) and you can get a connection there”. She turned to her friend and said “Hmmm….ABC, it’s really rough there”. I told her I’d managed 30-odd years so she would be fine for 6 minutes 😂

It sounds like she's a little too forthright with her opinions OP. If I thought the same thing, I'd keep it to myself as it's not nice to sneer about other people's choices. Have a great time and don't worry about what she thinks.

Invite her over when you get home and show her the 80000 photos you took

she doesn’t sound like a good friend.

People have different tastes when it comes to holidays, doesn’t mean she should mock other peoples choices.

I have a friend just like this and it’s exhausting! She will always criticise my taste in things whether that be holidays, sofas or kitchens! She comes across as really rude. Best thing I’ve found is to distance myself from her a bit and try ignore her (although easier said than done).

@NCFT0922 it’s not a recommendation when she doesn’t even have a child and has never been to a baby class! She just wants to criticize in a socially acceptable way to make me feel small. Totally different to ‘oh we did baby sensory, it was good, we tried bloom though as well and that was better I thought. Maybe give it a go if you’re looking for another class!’ that is a friendly recommendation!

It’s perfectly OK to acknowledge that something is not your cup of tea, just because if different tastes and preferences.

My family and mates know I would hate Disney. Like they wouldn’t dream of my beloved back to basics camping trips. They recoil in horror!

But that’s just appreciating each other’s choices for them, and different to being snobby and sneery and especially about a difference in affordability.

I am delighted for my friends when they head off on some glam cruise, they are happy for me when I come home relaxed, smelling of woodsmoke and with twigs in my hair. No raining on anyone’s parade.