Friend dismissive about holiday

[Gezunteit1]

My partner and I are going on what is a holiday in a lifetime for us, never flown long-haul before and we've saved a lot for this.
I told a friend we were going (her and her husband are on high incomes)
And she just said, "That's nice but really not the sort of place I'd choose, it's somewhere I'd go to take a few pictures but that's it, it's far too fake and artificial (it's not Dubai) .
"Personally I prefer somewhere like X long haul expensive place"
That's good for her, and it doesn't have to be everyone's cup of tea but why the need to say that and try and put a dampener on it?
It's like if a family were going to Blackpool (I know its rep but I like it) i wouldn't go "Oh it's far too tacky and rough there, I prefer the Cotswolds myself"
I'd just keep my mouth shut and let them be happy about it.

Sounds like she gets a kick out of pissing on your chips. I'd be sacking someone like that off as a friend unless it was a one off. But I bet if you think about it she's always having little digs.

I would reply “oh it must be so hard for you to not be able to appreciate all types of different places. Thst must really limit your life”

Some people just can't stand to see others happy, even if they're supposed to be your friends.
just ignore her comments and make sure you tell her how amazing it was and what a great time you had when you return.

P.S I'm guessing Vegas or NYC

Vegas?
Cancun?

I doubt if any of it is true. My ex-neighbors used to crow about "when I think of all the holidays we've had ...". As if I or anyone else cares.

Some people cannot be happy for others. Having any kind of holiday is a celebration with me!

I don't even have a shed.

OP have a wonderful time.

I have THREE sheds!!! (Boast)

Have a wonderful holiday OP.

Don’t give it headspace

The mere fact that you are makes me think perhaps you need to drop or at least step back from this friend

Have a great holiday

to the friends face? That's horrible. She doesn't sound like a very nice person

It's British slang, for someone who has to go one better than everyone else.

They dont sound like friends they sound insufferable and insecure with their own lives.

Wherever your going is way out if my price range op so if you want to be snobby go ahead 🤣🤣 enjoy your holiday im sure you will have a fantastic experience. (The experience is all about what you make of it).

We used to know someone who would comment like this to demonstrate his superiority, in his own little mind, I would always respond Well, it takes one to know one.

What a bitch.
Have a fabulous time.
And don't be rushing to get back in touch with her on your return.

Its Las Vegas isn't it? If so, im with your friend.

Yes, jelly baby! Have a lovely holiday, is it in the carribean?

A work colleague did something similar recently - told me she couldn't think of anywhere worse to go on holiday. Silly cow.

Enjoy yourselves. Some people are snobby, they might not even realise.

My ex was like them so we didn't go to fun places, we went to worthy ones, history, galleries etc . Last year I went with dp ai and it was brilliant, even the karaoke and the silent disco!

I know people like this. They are generally unhappy with something in their own lives so want to bring others down too.

I used to have a friend like this and in fact my mum is just like this! Try to one-up everything you do, they always seem to have had a better experience or be doing something better. Definitely a sign of envy and/or insecurity. That said some people just enjoy talking about themselves and it can come across badly.

'Oh I am sorry, we're all going through hard times my dear' head tilt, hand pat, sickly smile of sympathy!
I love people like her, they give so many opportunities for fun!

If her remarks are filling your head …ditch her.

Ignore her. Her comments are a sign of extremely poor manners.

Has she actually been there?* if not she’s not entitled to comment. But maybe she’s a bit put out that you’re going on the type of holiday that until now, she’s seen as her own sort of privilege.

*Years ago, dh and I were waxing lyrical to DM about a Caribbean island we’d been to and loved. DM passed comments on to a sister, who made a face and said very dismissively, ‘Concrete jungle!’

Which it absolutely was not! She had made up her mind without ever having visited.

My usual response when someone's being dismissive is that I didn't ask for their opinion, or that it's obviously something I like otherwise I wouldn't do it.
I try not to get defensive over my choices.

I had a snobbish friend (married to high earner, never really accomplished much herself) tell me that I was merely a "tourist" whilst she was a "world traveler."

Haven't bothered with her in years.