Friend dismissive about holiday

[Gezunteit1]

My partner and I are going on what is a holiday in a lifetime for us, never flown long-haul before and we've saved a lot for this.
I told a friend we were going (her and her husband are on high incomes)
And she just said, "That's nice but really not the sort of place I'd choose, it's somewhere I'd go to take a few pictures but that's it, it's far too fake and artificial (it's not Dubai) .
"Personally I prefer somewhere like X long haul expensive place"
That's good for her, and it doesn't have to be everyone's cup of tea but why the need to say that and try and put a dampener on it?
It's like if a family were going to Blackpool (I know its rep but I like it) i wouldn't go "Oh it's far too tacky and rough there, I prefer the Cotswolds myself"
I'd just keep my mouth shut and let them be happy about it.

They come across as unpleasant and not people I'd want to spend to much time with

Ignore.

A slight derailment but my 'friend' got annoyed when dd was telling her dd where we were going on holiday. ( somewhere like Spain) ..apparently it was making her jealous!!

I hate this sort of shit. Like our inlaws carping about a family Florida trip, 'when our kids were young they were quite happy to be entertained climbing trees and playing poohsticks and eating coal'

You have to be a brain numbing bore whenever someone does anything or goes somewhere that doesn't personally take your fancy?

Spoiler alert: you don't have any friends. They're acquaintances who think you're a tiresome wet blanket.

@Gezunteit1 I’m confused about the link you’re making between her having recently had a baby and not going abroad?

Don't let your friends' attitude put a dampner on your holiday, some people lack the ability to be kind and show enthusiasm for other peoples happiness.

Its Las Vegas isn't it? If so, im with your friend.

Well it's a good job that nobody cares what you think either.

She sounds like a bit of a knob. I have a friend like this and I am starting to distance myself a bit and remind myself why she is behaving that way. It says more about her than you OP. Have a great holiday 😀

Some people like to put others down to feel better about themselves. As others have mentioned, I’m not sure she’s that nice a person or friend.

It's insecurity! People who one up all the time are insecure, the same as people who " need" to own the latest fashions/ designer clothes, the latest model of car, the biggest house ( probably mortgaged up to their eyeballs), the latest tech! You should feel sorry for people like that really because it's utterly pathetic!

Definitely sounds like a case of jealousy to me, she isn’t a friend.

I feel like this about Disney. But i don't mention it.

Like other folk don't mention they think I'm crazy for dropping 10k touring American national parks in a camper or whatever

She sounds horrible and, yes, very snobby.

Id just ignore her but make a mental note that she’s not really my friend.

My ex sis-in-l was just like this.
I remember wearing a gold necklace and said ' IV got one like that but mines real gold '
Very materialistic...all about what she was having ....getting...wanting..

I've got FOUR sheds (it's nothing to brag about - they were there when we moved in and three of them need knocking down) and I would be pleased for a friend who is excited about going on holiday, even if I didn't want to go there myself. It's not my place to piss on someone else's chips.

Stealth boast there.

This is her insecurities coming out. Either ignore it or just snipe back “well it’s not the place that matters really, me and DH could have fun in a parked car- our relationship is that amazing”. Shoot the wind from elitist, b@llshit sails.

How is it a stealth boast? It probably costs as much to go to Disney.

I'd be in the park van too that said

Ah, she prefers Elevenerife!

Jealous and insecure.

Many years ago me and DH were at a friends dinner party. One other couple were there, (I vaguely knew the wife but not her DH) The husband, it turns out "worked" in the motor trade, and talked a lot about the features on his new top of the range Jaguar. He turned to DH and asked him what he drove DH replied a Ford, he then said very loftily "Oh referred to in the trade as Dagenham dustbins!"
He looked around the table laughing in a superior way, but I witnessed his poor wife cringing.

I wouldn't say she was jealous, why would she be jealous if she travels a lot. She does comes across as a bit of a know it all and superior. It's seems you were looking for 'wow .... first steps' moment and I get it - first long haul trip, a nervous flyer and of course you're excited but given what else you have said about your blunt friend, she was not the person to give you a 'well done' moment.

Have a brilliant time OP. I have never not enjoyed myself on a holiday ...... Is it Vegas?

She's not your friend and she is jealous. Anyone who needs to put you down in any way needs cutting off I'm afraid. True friends are happy for you not condescending or envious. She's only around to be secretly smug when things go wrong for you.
I had a 'friend' just like that, not anymore.

This is one of those situations where if you literally said "OMG I'm so excited, I'm going to Disney's new Las Vegas Benidorm-themed Casino!" and she replied "Gosh I'd never go there, it's far too fake", then she's a complete twat.

If you said something like "I'm going to this place, have you been? Isn't it exciting?", she could fairly reasonably respond (albeit tactlessly) "no I've not been, it's not really my sort of place, I prefer rural holidays and Las Vegas is all bright lights, and a bit fake, but I'm sure you'll enjoy yourselves".

Lots of people are just twats though!

I hate people like this.
I respond don't worry, I wasn't inviting you.

Signed off before I could add ...... If it is Vegas and you buy into the 'whole' thing you will have a blast - plenty to do.on the outskirts too