How many of you would be happy for your children once they reach adulthood to still live with you?

Oh apart from one month when I returned home with sons while relocating. My dad presented me with a bill for £900 for food, electricity and accommodation. (I had repeatedly offered to buy food etc while there). Ouch.

Omg I'm so glad some of you aren't my mum! Why have kids if that's your attitude. What's gonna happen when you're old and need care. When you're alone in the nursing home because they cba seeing you! I'll never turn my back on my Kid she can stay with me as long as she needs nor matter what! Actually sad to read some comments on this post.

Definitely. For as long as they like. DD21 has just moved out and I really miss her. I didn’t want her to be thinking about the price of gas and electric and the rise in food prices. On the other hand, I think she moved out at the right time, mortgage wise.
DD18 has just started Uni so is going to be here for at least the next 3 years.
My door is always open for them.

Not RTFT but we were talking about this very subject today .
DS is at University (Masters) then will do a 2 year further on-job training after that .

DH and I are more than happy for him to live with us still and work these (probably 3+) years while he saves his deposit , hopefully the house prices go down and he'll increase his earnings (we're in outer London)

Not looking at having him here till he's 30 though !

People take different paths in life and many of them are right. There is not only one right way. If my children genuinely want to live with me as adults and we all get on, that could be good.

My kids will always have a home with me.
We live in London so if they want to continue living in the area, I expect they will be with us well into their 20's, possibly beyond. No problem with that. Already they help around the house and have been taught to from a young age.
We need to stop this stupid stigma of kids still being at home. It's going to become more and more common as time goes on so what are we going to do? Just judge people forever who can't get on the property ladder through no fault of their own? It's just ridiculous.

Our kids will always have a home with us if they want it regardless of age. I’d prefer they stayed for a few years at least, to save, once they’re finished at uni. I moved out young due to having bad parents, it was hard at times, I see no need for my kids not to have things easier. We have a good sized house though that makes things easier, everyone has their own space. 4 adults in a small house would be difficult I think.

My eldest son left home at 30. He took a long time to save deposit. My younger son is 27 and has been saving hard for deposit and was hoping to buy his home in April. Now mortgage rates have shot up I think he will have to stay longer. Both sons lived in loft extension. 2 very large rooms and shower room between them. They did their own laundry including bedding, often out for meal times and each son had to cook one family meal each wee. They cleaned own rooms and did a few jobs around house eldest son emptied the kitchen bin each day, cut grass in summer each week, emptied dish washer each day. Younger son filled dishwasher, pegged out washing for me sometimes, vacuumed stairs and they took turns to clean their own shower room. Both would walk dogs a couple of times each week. I actually like my son's and did not mind sharing our house with them at all. It will always be their home. They spend most evenings they were not out with.their friends in their rooms. I often go out for a breakfast or lunch with my younger son. AA bout twice a month. I used to with my eldest son too before he moved away. I go to see him about once every 6 weeks and we go for meal. I don't understand people who don't like or get on with their own children or adult children who behave disrespectfully.to their parents. Bothy sons get on really well with their stepdad too. Often go to cinema or out for a curry with him.

I think it's ok and not representative of failure - more so the broken society where it's so difficult to get on the property ladder.
I think adults living with parents don't necessarily equal dependants. You can live an independent life (ie job, saving, paying your way, social life etc.) whilst living at home.

I think, Who cares? It’s not anybody else’s business except for the family themselves.
MN seems to be this parallel universe where a 16-year-old is treated like a baby, but as soon as They hit 18 they are expected to be independent have steady income and find a place to live.
I think if everyone spent less time worrying about other people‘s business and more time worrying about their own the world might be a little better, but then obviously MN would have to shut down.

This is a Western exoticist fantasy, as racist as "they look after their own, you know". Ask a few daughters in law how wonderful this is for them...
There are healthy and unhealthy intergenerational households in all cultures, everywhere.

I have 3 adults, DS, DSS, and his girlfriend living with us. I love having them all here. It's a big house and I would much rather they saved than spend money on rent. I will really miss them when they move out.

I’d be completely happy to have my children at home as long as they need/want.
I echo a PP that we need to end the stigma of this, if the cost of living crisis and general state of the world doesn’t do that for us.

Nothing used to upset me more than my horrid mother telling us that once we were 18 ‘that’s it, you’re out and on your own’.
I love my children and as long as they work hard and make the most of life, why would it bother me if they wish to stay at home? We’re a family.
I hope those who aren’t happy with it aren’t expecting to be looked after by DCs in your elderly years!

Should probably add I live in 6 bedroom house and only me, DH and 1 foster child as well as younger son so plenty of room. Not on top of each other plus both sons contributed financially whilst living at home.

You’re not actually crass enough to say that someone with a disability or neurodiversity that prevents or delays them living independently “has something wrong with them” are you?!

My oldest is 23. I don't see him leaving home any time soon. Unless he moves to the other end of the country he won't afford to. Even houseshares here are expensive. I'd rather he stayed at home and saved as much as possible. Luckily he's taken my advice about saving!

My 18 yos are at/going to University. I hope they don't come back, in the nicest possible way, but they will probably need to.

My 20 yo has SEN and won't be able to live independently. So he will either live with me or move to supported living. My actual dream would be to move somewhere with a small annexe for him to live in with me close by. Just need a lottery win!

I agree and as long as both parties are respectful and contribute equally then it's no different to living with a friend/flatmate/spouse.

My friend's brother still lives with his mum at age 50, but it works for them because he looks after her and it's company for them both.

But other cultures (including mine) around the world do have multi-generational living. Acknowledging this is not racist at all. Agree that not all will be happy.
My own auntie was the DIL in a multigenerational household - it wasn’t always plain sailing but she’s the first to talk about the benefits.

Do you know anyone who did ask to be born?

Both my kids are motivated, helpful and respectful young people and I have the room so yes, they are welcome to stay as long as they like. I'd love for them to go to uni, go traveling and have experiences knowing they have a safe base to always come back to. I hope one day they branch out and live independently and have the luxury of their own space but I'll never ask them to leave for my benefit.

The expectation is for children to leave at around age 25 now isn't it? What with minimum wage and the housing crisis, young adults have everything stacked against them.

Provided there isn't a good reason why they are living at home such as a disability/carer situation or a bereavement I think I would be OK with it provided they were working towards independence. House prices are so expensive at the moment and the market is brutal so I know a few people who've sold and moved in with family in order to not be in a chain so they can move faster to purchase and even then its not making that much of a difference for them. If they were living at home, had the means to live independently but chose not to then yeah I'd feel like they needed a push to get out there and start living their fullest life independently.