I've lost a fair bit of weight (probably more than 3 stone).
I understand that people of course will notice this but when someone comments on it it makes me feel really horrible.
"You look great lately, you've lost so much weight" - seems nice but just makes me feel like there was something wrong or worse about me before. It validates the way I felt being overweight (like everyone is judging the way I look).
Oddly enough, when someone just says "have you lost weight? You look slimmer/fit/smaller" it doesn't bother me as it's kind of matter of fact. But the implication that I look better due to losing weight bothers me.
I guess there's an extra layer of complexity as I was recovering from an eating disorder when I gained weight. And now it makes me so self conscious and makes me feel like I can never gain the weight back as people are so observant.
Does anyone else feel this way or am I too sensitive?
AIBU?
To think that commenting on someone's weightloss isn't nice?
Miajk · 02/10/2022 23:14
Am I being unreasonable?
429 votes. Final results.
POLLNachobutt · 03/10/2022 14:23
I do see your point but I think sometimes people can't do right for doing wrong. If no-one ever commented you might be on here asking if people are not acknowledging because they're jealous or if they don't notice. Sometimes people just say things because they want to say something nice and haven't given thought to the myriad other ways that their comment might be taken, they just want to say something nice. I would rather that than a world where no-one ever tries to say anything nice for fear of upsetting me.
InCheesusWeTrust · 03/10/2022 15:17
@YouAreNotBatman why do you think I didn't have experience of both sides?
I even said earlier about how much I lost
Mamabear12 · 02/10/2022 23:22
Yea, it’s really annoying. Once I did this diet, but I couldn’t keep weight on, so lost a little too much and a few people made comments. I don’t comment when you gain weight, so don’t comment if I am too thin for your liking (I was still in healthy range). Yes, I was a little thin, but no need to make comments.
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