To think that commenting on someone's weightloss isn't nice?

[Miajk]

I've lost a fair bit of weight (probably more than 3 stone).

I understand that people of course will notice this but when someone comments on it it makes me feel really horrible.

"You look great lately, you've lost so much weight" - seems nice but just makes me feel like there was something wrong or worse about me before. It validates the way I felt being overweight (like everyone is judging the way I look).

Oddly enough, when someone just says "have you lost weight? You look slimmer/fit/smaller" it doesn't bother me as it's kind of matter of fact. But the implication that I look better due to losing weight bothers me.

I guess there's an extra layer of complexity as I was recovering from an eating disorder when I gained weight. And now it makes me so self conscious and makes me feel like I can never gain the weight back as people are so observant.

Does anyone else feel this way or am I too sensitive?

Many years ago I did compliment a friend on her weight loss and she seemed really happy but next time I saw her she’d re-gained it all and we both just felt awkward about it. So, that’s the main reason why I don’t mention weight anymore plus I’m shy so I don’t like people making personal comments about me.

I recently lost 3st, I've had a few people acknowledge it as they know I've been hitting the gym hard, so most comments have been around that. However, my mums neighbour in a busy pub shouted for me to do a twirl, I nearly died of embarrassment, never in a million years would I actually do that. Some people have no clue.