Ending relationship because he is too tight?

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I’ve been dating someone for a few months and we get on well. However he is extremely tight! He is a property landlord and owns just over 80 properties.

he is constantly going on about the cost of living and gas and electric it’s exhausting. Won’t take me to a nice hotel or nothing he will not pay over £70 for a hotel!

he continually takes me to crappy cheap Chinese restaurants.

His house is beautiful but full of crappy old furniture but then he has super flash cars.

I’m over it! Usually when I start dating someone it’s fun. Weekends away nice meals out you know the honey moon period. But this is miserable and everything we do consists around the price.

Now how do I call this off without sounding like some kind of goldigger?

Why don't you book a nice trip?

Or are you just expecting him for pay for everything and then moaning when he doesn't

Call it off. You aren't matched with your financial expectations of life.

How often do you pay/take him away?

I’ve just come off holiday with my son, I’ve said to him why don’t we go for a spa day or something and it’s oh I’m not wasting money on that. I’m happy to go half’s but he doesn’t want to spend a penny unless he has too.

Are you going halves?
Meanness with money when there is clearly no need is not an attractive trait.
ditch him.

You're not suited. I'd move on.

@1994girl how am I ungrateful? He hasn’t done anything for me.

He's probably used to people using him for money, so wants to set his expectations from the beginning. He seems sensible! Sounds like you're only with him for the money.

If he won’t go halves then just call it off, he sounds miserable and you’re unsuited.

Wow. Uncalled for

I’m definitely done I just don’t know how to word it and don’t want to hurt his feelings.

I think your a nice guy but I don't see a future with you.

You ok @1994girl ?

there are few things less attractive in a man than being a miser. I’m not saying spendthrifts ere great either but that meanness is very unattractive and often translates into a meanness of spirit in my experience.

So have you taken him to nice hotels then? Or out for nice meals?
From what you've said it seems you expect him to pay for you, or at best, youll go half's. Why?

Perhaps you could say fundamentally you are both too different. That you feel he has different values to you as you prefer to look on the bright side of life and that when you spend time with him he can drag you down by worrying about saving pennies.

run like you are on fire and don’t look back. I wish I had when I met my tight ex. I have had to fight for every penny towards our child and it’s practically broken me.
start off with ….it’s not you, it’s me….then make up something and leave …quick. Trust me this ain’t getting better.

What are you, a teenager? Never finished a relationship before?

Ok, here you go... I'm so sorry but I no longer see a future with you and I'd prefer to discontinue the relationship.

You don't have to give a reason, but I find ' I just don't want to be with you anymore ' generally covers the bases.

I’m on 26k a year he’s a millionaire with no kids I have a young son. Why on earth should I be offering to pay for us to go away. I’ll pay for myself that’s it. I’m going to text him now before he calls me.

By being honest you would be doing him a favour.
Say you don't like how tight he ism

You're literally the definition of a gold digger.
He should be very happy if you break it off.
Let him find someone not just after his money

It's very possible he's treated you this way on purpose, to find out if you're a gold digger or not. Looks like he'll discover he was right to.

If OP was a gold digger she would be hanging on for dear life and going along with everything to bag herself a millionaire.

This would absolutely be a deal breaker for me. I cannot get on with people who penny pinch, particularly in when they are well off. I am not wasteful but life is for living. I do not think this is a good match for you. Also, peoples attitudes to money are pretty stable and impact so many life decisions. This will cause misery in the long term. Run!

@arethereanyleftatall how am I a goldigger? If someone is earning way more than the other person do you not think they should pay for majority of things? I’ve probably spent more on him since we’ve been together. He had no presents from anyone on his birthday I went out and brought him loads.

He’s took me to a few buffet Chineses and pubs!