Ending relationship because he is too tight?

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I’ve been dating someone for a few months and we get on well. However he is extremely tight! He is a property landlord and owns just over 80 properties.

he is constantly going on about the cost of living and gas and electric it’s exhausting. Won’t take me to a nice hotel or nothing he will not pay over £70 for a hotel!

he continually takes me to crappy cheap Chinese restaurants.

His house is beautiful but full of crappy old furniture but then he has super flash cars.

I’m over it! Usually when I start dating someone it’s fun. Weekends away nice meals out you know the honey moon period. But this is miserable and everything we do consists around the price.

Now how do I call this off without sounding like some kind of goldigger?

its not the law, but I think if he’s a millionaire and she’s a hard up single mum it’s a sign of generosity and kindness.

I earned half of what DH did when we were dating. He let me pick up coffees, taxis etc but he paid for tickets/meals/whatever the main activity was.

So did you meet up?

OP you’ve been getting a hard time on this post. “Hi so and so, I like you as a person and I think our approach to money /spending is incompatible so I don’t see a future together. OP”

Yes, if it wasn't clear from my post I am not a right wing Tory capitalist royalist.

Exactly. Not many things are less attractive than tight-fistedness. DH and I have never been wealthy, but we’d always pay more than our share with friends on a low income.

I’m surprised that people are calling OP a gold-digger.

Had a feeling he wouldn't let you off the hook lightly. Be careful with this one, he sounds like he wants to be in control of your thoughts and feelings. Please remember that if you want to end it, you don't actually need to give him a thesis on why. It should be enough that you want out, whether he believes your reasons are valid or not.

So he's older and richer and not quite what you expected because he is tight.

Dump him and find a man with less money that makes you happy.

"Having none of it"?

Who does he think he is?.

He gets worse with every post.

Mean, old, entitled man.

Dunp and block.

Hi OP, I've only read the first few posts on this so don't know if a whole lot more info has been drip-fed etc, but please don't assume he's rich, or has money to spare, just because he owns lots of properties. Changes over the past few years have meant owning properties is far less profitable than it used to be and there's a very good chance that he's actually struggling for money - especially if his tenancy agreements mean that he covers the energy costs.

If he was a naturally generous hearted person he would at least explain all that but he sounds like a grumpy old man with a mean spirit.

I can't stand tightness! Aw it wld so put me off and even if he earned a more modest living. That fact he has so much money and is still tight and moaning about money like he has none. Ditch him and tell him why!

Made the news

www.mirror.co.uk/money/my-landlord-boyfriend-owns-over-28122240

You gotta be kidding me 🤣😂🤣

And now I now why I never buy the daily news and the mirror, because being on mumnsnet is where you get the “ first hand news” of what’s “happening in the world”. Who needs newspapers? 🤣

He doesn’t owe you anything. You should feel lucky he lets you and your kid stay at his nice house. It’s pathetic that you don’t understand that. Sickening

How is she a gold digger? She’s paying for herself, not asking him to pay for both of them. I always thought a gold digger was someone who just expected to be funded for everything and who never paid for themselves. I don’t see that happening here in the situation the OP has described.

I wonder if unscrupulous and untalented journos "plant a thread" here for a story.
I'm not saying this happened with this thread but I'm certainly suspicious of some other threads.