Are they all like this ? I can't take it anymore. I just don't want to do it.
How do I get past it. He literally hates me and lashes out over every tiny thing. Everything is my fault, I can't do anything right and I actually think he despises me.
His behaviour in turn doesn't make me want to get anywhere near him at all.
We have two small kids. One baby. 5 months.
Husband works very long hours, so basically, I do everything. Older child is at nursery some days, but other than that it's on me.
I just don't have the space for sex at all.
What can I do ? Force myself? He literally hates me. He's so unhappy.
AIBU?
Husband only happy if he gets sex
atmywitsendd · 24/09/2022 14:05
Notanotherwindow · 24/09/2022 14:29
I'd point out bluntly that him being a nasty cunt to you does not in any way make you want to rip his clothes off.
Having said that, I don't think you can expect him to stay in a sexless marriage. You need to sit down together and maturely discuss the way forward, whether that be you trying harder, opening the marriage up to him sleeping with other people, splitting up or whatever.
Him being nasty is a problem and so is you not wanting sex. Both need resolving or this relationship is over.
DragonflyNights · 24/09/2022 14:51
It sounds like a horrible situation and deeply unhealthy. What’s stopping you from thinking about leaving him?
Teenyliving · 24/09/2022 14:55
Christ get some self respect.
how do you think trying harder is going to stop him from being a rapist?
his behaviour is not your fault.
try harder to look after yourself
atmywitsendd · 24/09/2022 14:53
I don't want to regret it one day that I didn't try harder. Having small kids is a rough time in any marriage. Especially with his work schedule, it's very very tough. So the hope is that things could improve. But the longer it goes on, the more I dislike him and vice versa.
DragonflyNights · 24/09/2022 14:51
It sounds like a horrible situation and deeply unhealthy. What’s stopping you from thinking about leaving him?
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Arou · 24/09/2022 15:06
What makes you say he hates you? Is this in response to not putting out? Do you know the two are completely correlated, could it be lashing out due to lack of sleep or adjustment as a new parent? Are you sure that you’re not feeling guilty about not giving him sex right away or feeling pressured and jumping to the conclusion that that’s why he’s losing his rag at you?
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