Are they all like this ? I can't take it anymore. I just don't want to do it.
How do I get past it. He literally hates me and lashes out over every tiny thing. Everything is my fault, I can't do anything right and I actually think he despises me.
His behaviour in turn doesn't make me want to get anywhere near him at all.
We have two small kids. One baby. 5 months.
Husband works very long hours, so basically, I do everything. Older child is at nursery some days, but other than that it's on me.
I just don't have the space for sex at all.
What can I do ? Force myself? He literally hates me. He's so unhappy.
AIBU?
Husband only happy if he gets sex
atmywitsendd · 24/09/2022 14:05
atmywitsendd · 24/09/2022 20:40
Tell me, what would a non abusive partner do, if their wife wasn't up for sex for a prolonged period of time ?
Teenyliving · 24/09/2022 20:39
HE IS ABUSIVE
IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT
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atmywitsendd · 24/09/2022 20:40
Tell me, what would a non abusive partner do, if their wife wasn't up for sex for a prolonged period of time ?
Teenyliving · 24/09/2022 20:39
HE IS ABUSIVE
IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT
EmeraldShamrock1 · 24/09/2022 21:25
No they're not.
Mine rarely has sex lately and hasn't pushed it.
My friend has the same issue with husband works long hours rarely helps with the children.
The only time he makes an effort to be nice is when he is looking for sex.
If she isn't in the mood working PT and doing everything else he becomes moody and depressed suggesting divorce etc.
billy1966 · 24/09/2022 21:32
That is not the answer of a real friend.
You are post partum with a 5 month old baby and he is threatening you that it will be your fault.
You really need to speak the words out loud.
It will help to call Womens aid.
Please call them.
atmywitsendd · 24/09/2022 20:40
Tell me, what would a non abusive partner do, if their wife wasn't up for sex for a prolonged period of time ?
Teenyliving · 24/09/2022 20:39
HE IS ABUSIVE
IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT
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BadNomad · 24/09/2022 21:36
I just didn't get married to divorce so quickly and easily. I believe marriage is hard and you should work at it.
I never understand this way of thinking. Whether you divorce after 6 months or stay married for 70 years, no one gives you a reward at the end of it all. But still, countless people waste their youth and years trying to "save" miserable relationships under the belief that marriage makes it more special. It isn't.
What kind of life is it to lie there while someone humps on you so they will stop being a cunt to you for 5 minutes afterwards? It's horrible and a waste.
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