To not want to look after someone else's drunk DC?

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As title says.

DD went out tonight with her friend and the plan was for him to sleep at ours, he's done this loads of times before so I agreed as I didn't think they'd be too drunk, DD is fine, her friend however isn't, he's been sick a few times and I can't even get a conversation out of him, I messaged his mum and she said she's on holiday and she'll try and call his grandad but that was about half an hour ago and I've not had a message from her.

Aibu for not wanting to look after someone else's drunk child?

Call him an ambulance

How old is he?

Op just be hopeful a responsible adult will look after your drunk DC when it happens.

Don't waste NHS resources on a drunk presumably teenager.

YANBU. But also, probably just one of those things you have to to get on with and have a serious conversation about in 24hrs

Isn't this just part of having kids? Doesn't sound fun though. But when she's an adult, your dd will remember how you acted in these situations and wether you were there for her and her friends.

Yeh, this too. One for the team.

@Whammyyammy no the OP shouldn’t call a fucking ambulance. They are under massive pressure.

OP - you aren’t being unreasonable but unless granddad shows up you are just going to have to take it as one of those things.

Water and toast. If he’s been such a couple of times then probably the worst is over. Administer a bollocking in the morning and a clear never again.

Hopefully karma will kick in and someone will look after one of yours when they need it.

The ambulance will not take him if he's drunk but essentially fine. That isn't their job and they will be pissed off that you wasted their time calling them out.

Put him to bed on his side, give him a bucket and leave some water for him.

Yanbu to not want to look after him, but this is one of the down sides of having teens.

Make sure he cleans up any mess in the morning, and have a conversation about getting that drunk when he's at yours for the night.

Can’t your DD look after him?

Are they in their teens?

Why are you looking after him and not your dd ?

That said, I'm sure no-one ever wants to look after a drunk teen, but it is just the decent thing to do - especially as this isn't a random person, but is your dd's friend. I'd like to hope most adults would be decent enough to look out for any of my teens / young adults if they got it wrong one night and needed adult help.

So I think YABU

Oh yes those limitless resources just sitting around waiting to deal with pissed people on a Friday night.

Fgs.

Agree with keeping an eye, keep him on his side if lying down, regular sips of water if he's able to drink it. How old is he?

How old is he? If he's over 18 I'd be giving him a sick bucket and leaving him to sleep it off. 16-18 I'd be pissed off but make more effort to ensure he's okay. And (as a pp said) I'd hope that someone else would be willing to keen an eye on my child if necessary in the future. Either way, I'd be making sure to point out how bad it is to get in such a state (and expect others to look after you) when they're both awake tomorrow.

I'm not sure what the mum can do to help though. She's not nearby and if she can't get hold of a related adult near you then she can't get hold of him. Hopefully she'll bollock him for putting you in this position.

He should be sitting up checked on when he is sobbering up. Your dd should be doing it not you.

I’d look after him!

Not ideal but not the end of the world, he probably feels embarrassed enough, hopefully enough to not do it again if staying at yours.

Try and keep in mind how you’d want someone to look after your DD if she was staying at their home and you were on holiday. Also if the grandad is elderly and it’s this late, maybe just take one for the team and don’t make him come out this late.

Christ, please don't call an ambulance. What a ridiculous suggestion. It's no wonder the NHS are under so much strain.

Oh please.

My Dad looked after friends of mine when they were so drunk I struggled to get them back our house (I didn’t drink heavily until my 20s, boring sod that I was, so I sat up with him).

Be a grown up.

He's 17, DD won't look after him as she finds him being drunk amusing!

Why are you giving her a choice? He’s her guest!

I'm not giving her the choice but if I didn't look after/keep an eye on him she wouldn't as she thinks it's hilarious

YABU. You knew they were going out drinking and you ok’d him staying at yours. What did you expect would happen?!

Look after him this once. It's not ideal but you'd hope someone would do the same for your DD if necessary.

Tell her it won’t be so amusing if he chokes on his own vomit.