To not want to look after someone else's drunk DC?

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As title says.

DD went out tonight with her friend and the plan was for him to sleep at ours, he's done this loads of times before so I agreed as I didn't think they'd be too drunk, DD is fine, her friend however isn't, he's been sick a few times and I can't even get a conversation out of him, I messaged his mum and she said she's on holiday and she'll try and call his grandad but that was about half an hour ago and I've not had a message from her.

Aibu for not wanting to look after someone else's drunk child?

I agree with others. Why does your 17 year old have your permission to go out drinking?
Sure we all did a bit of it covertly at that age, but there's no way I'd have come home drunk or with a drunk friend. I'd have been in big trouble, not thinking it was hilarious.

YABU. Yes, it was stupid to get that drunk, especially when he's not staying at his own home, but wouldn't you want someone to look after your daughter if she made a stupid mistake and ended up in a similar situation?

YABU. If you didn’t want to have to deal with 2 drunk 17 year olds then you shouldn’t have let your Dd go out partying and bring home a boy. I wouldn’t say 16+ is underage (even though it legally is) because they’re at sixth form college at that point. If your Dd is getting drunk on a regular basis then that isn’t healthy and you shouldn’t be encouraging it.

In future, tell Dd that she can no longer bring home any guests because she can’t be trusted to look after them.

I’d not be impressed but I’d look after them to make sure they were ok. There would be a conversation the next day too.

I would like to think I would look after my DC friends if they arrived drunk and being sick. I would their parents would do the same for my DD. It isn't nice and I have no doubt he will be mortified in the morning, I cant believe you called his parents. Poor lad must have been in an awful state and what he needed was a little TLC, put to bed with a bucket and kept an eye on.

”but definitely call an ambulance”

has this become a requirement for someone who is drunk now???

no wonder the ambulance service is run off its feet!!!

You knew they were going out drinking even though they are not of legal age. Tbh I think suck it up. As the adult who knew what they were going to do, condoned it and agreed they could sleep it off at yours, looking after him is the price you pay. 🤷

Ffs look after the lad until someone responsible arrives.

What goes around comes around.

Nobody ever thought "I want to look after a drunk person".

Ever.

So, you are not unreasonable not to want to.

You would have been horrifically unreasonable not to have done it though. One of the many downsides of adulting I am afraid.

Well.i don't suppose anyone really wants to look after somebody else's drunk teen ,but what's the alternative?

@worriedatthistime 111 is the absolute bane of our lives. They are very risk adverse and send us to lots of unnecessary calls.

yes alcohol poisoning is a risk however it still doesn’t require an ambulance, there isn’t any clinical or medical intervention we would do on route and the best option if you were that concerned would be to drive the person to ED yourself - an emergency ambulance is not necessary

If he’s absolutely mortal and chundering everywhere out of control then just chuck him in the garden to sleep it off. Standard protocol.

You don’t need to “look after” him. He’s pissed not dying. Leave him out there until he’s no longer pissed - added bonus that any fluids he chucks up will be outside

This is just normal procedure surely?

If she'd slept at his and hot drunk, what would you expect his mother to do if you weren't around? Chuck her out the house? Have you calling any random relative to take her? Shove him in the loo with plenty of water and make sure he's asleep on his side?

DD isn't underage so she didn't need my permission to drink, but yes when she was 17 she was drinking at parties etc, I knew about it but I thought that's what most teens did, didn't think it was so unusual!

Her friend is still only 17 and his mum knows he drinks and she said before she only trusts him to drink with DD as other friends have left him etc in the past.

I did keep an eye on him and when he seemed to sober up I left them and DD kept an eye on him. He's currently still asleep

@Maisymoomoo22

That poster was being sarcastic...

Ffs some on here need a head wobble

Good old mumsnet, the only place where parents say their 17 year old ‘definitely doesn’t drink’ 😂

This is a joke surely? You'd want your 17 yo left in the garden overnight in god knows what weather to fall asleep on their back and choke in their sleep?

I found an 11 yr old who had stolen a ''Flat'' bottle of gin from his parents home and brought it to an event {At a horse show}

He had been shut in the rest room by other youngsters ''To sober up''.

I got St Johns Ambulance {Who do a sterling service at such events} to check on him, and they assessed him to be ill enough {Comatose yet vomiting} to need hospital, so off to the Children's Hospital he went.
He stayed there for several days, with alcohol poisoning.

Are you fucking serious?? This is EXACTLY why the ambulance service is at breaking point. It’s neither an ACCIDENT nor an EMERGENCY so he doesn't need to attend A&E at all let alone via a bloody ambulance. There’s another thread right now about the ambulance service not being able to function any longer and then I see this comment and it confirms why! This is a teenager who is a bit drunk they need sleep and an eye keeping on them that is not the NHSs responsibility!

O don't think anyone would want to do it. I don't want to do it for my own children but I will and occasionally do. There are better ways to spend a night but shit happens sometimes.

Yeah??? All the other pps that suggested calling an ambulance.
nobody’s seems to be wobbling more than yours.
if you’re not careful it’ll fall off!!!

Most teenagers are drinking in fields and then sleeping outside in this state happens organically. Nobody dies

I assume you gave him a bucket when they got home.

I'd also pass him a bottle of Dr Beckmann and a cloth for when he wakes up if he got sick anywhere.

Sleeping in a random field after drinking is a rite of passage.

Hilarious isn’t it 😂😂

There’s probably less than 5% of 17 year olds in this country who don’t get plastered every weekend

And rightly so. It’s part of growing up

The small% who don’t are usually nerdy socially awkward types