To not want to look after someone else's drunk DC?

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As title says.

DD went out tonight with her friend and the plan was for him to sleep at ours, he's done this loads of times before so I agreed as I didn't think they'd be too drunk, DD is fine, her friend however isn't, he's been sick a few times and I can't even get a conversation out of him, I messaged his mum and she said she's on holiday and she'll try and call his grandad but that was about half an hour ago and I've not had a message from her.

Aibu for not wanting to look after someone else's drunk child?

It sounds like your duagter's too immature to handle an overnight guest on her own so yeah, you'll have to help. It's not unreasonable that you don't want to do her job for her if she's 17 and should be able to cope, but it sounds like you're stuck with it tonight.

@Whammyyammy are you joking ???? I work frontline emergency ambulance that is NOT what we’re there for !!!!!! We are there for life threatening emergencies only !!!!! It’s comments like this why we’re at breaking point

My DD is also 17 and she knows I'd be angry if this happened. I think you'll have to take care of him tonight as his Mum's away, but I'd speak to your DD over the weekend and let her know that when she's having friends over to stay, she needs to make sure they don't get drunk - or they can't stay.

Once she has her own place, she can do what she likes - and clean up the sick, etc.!

I think you just need to look after him tonight and then not have house guests for a while again.

Normally when they've been out and he stays over he's usually fine, so I leave them to it

Oh it’s just a teenager being sick. Do some due diligence and then he’ll sleep it off. It’s not fun but it’s hardly a catastrophe.

but definitely call an ambulance. For sure

YANBU at all

keep calling his mum till she sorts his removal from your home.

She thinks it’s hilarious because she’s underaged and pissed after being allowed out on the lash with her underaged mate. You are the adult that’s responsible for them as you’ve agreed they can stay at yours after their night out. It’s up to you to take care of them now that they’re in this circumstance which you’ve allowed them to create. Did you not think that repeatedly letting a minor out to go drinking with her mates before a sleepover would eventually lead to one coming back to your house pissed and spewing?

FFS. Do some people have any idea of the real world

Thankfully my friend's parents didn't take your stance OP.

It only happened once (that was enough) but I will be forever grateful for the care they took of me.

I still remember their kindness and my shame almost 40 years later.

I'm sure nobody "wants" to do it, but it's a nice thing to do and as in my case, may well be remembered gratefully by that teen.

Whilst it's annoying at least he is safe with you.

It's hardly bloody hilarious when people choke and drown in their vomit after being drunk.
Would she think it 'Hilarious' if his cold body was there in the morning, devoid of life?
Not remotely funny, until she matures, don't allow any sleepovers, she's not capable of being responsible for her friend/s.

Exactly this. By allowing a sleepover with underaged teens, one is responsible for those teens, morally, if not legally.

I think since you knew that a 17 year old staying at your house was going out drinking but thought it would be fine because you didn’t expect him to get too drunk means that yes, in the absence of his parent , you do have to accept the consequences and act as his locum parent while he is in your house. Just as you would do if he accidentally fell down your stairs and broke his arm, or got food poisoning, or his appendix burst, in fact you have less to do in your current situation because all you have to do is take off his shoes, put him in the recovery position, put a sick bowl and a bottle of water by the bed and pray he doesn’t wet himself.

And when your daughter sobers up explain to her why drinking until you are incapable is not a good idea at any age but especially when you are only 17 because it makes you vunerable to choking on your own vomit, pissing yourself in public, falling down and smashing your head or all your front teeth, being raped, losing your wallet and phone, being picked up by the police or embarrassing yourself by throwing up in your friends house. So it isn’t funny.

I think you’re being mean, and I’m normally a cold hearted bitch.

Yep. Keep calling the mum, but definitely keep an eye on him. Do you have a mattress you could drag into a lounge room area? Plonk him on that and give him water, a bucket and paracetamol and food in the morning if the granddad hasn't turned up by then. It's pretty standard .
Last one I looked after turned up the next day with chocs and flowers . Now a very responsible adult.

So none of you give a fuck really? Nice.

Really? You guys sure come up with some dumb bullshit.

That poor lad is going to be mortified tomorrow! I can understand your annoyance OP but as others have said, there’s a likely chance it could be your daughter some time and another parent is minding her like you are him.
When it happened with one of my lads friends we sorted him, made sure he was ok, tried not to make too big a deal of it next day because he was so embarrassed but also made sure he knew it must never happen again!

I think this is one of those things.
Full disclosure: I don’t have any experience of children of that age

Yabu

My DD looks after her drunk friends. I would be having a word with her about why drunk people need to be observed etc.

Oh dear the joy of teens.

Well it's happened now, hopefully he'll get it all up and fall asleep. Leave him some water.

He'll be mortified in the morning - hopefully!