Asked to pay half towards a takeaway in friends home.

[avamiah]

I visited my friends home recently with my 12 year old and she has 3 kids herself and lives in a very nice large home( just for information).I took some gifts for them then early evening she said there was a great Chinese nearby and should we order a takeaway?
Great idea I ordered a few dishes for me and my daughter and she ordered 5 dishes for her and her 3 children.
She then said that’s £92 and just give her £45 .
I was speechless as we were guests in her home and she invited us for dinner and I was scrambling through my purse as I had my cards on me and only just had enough cash to give her.

I would never do that to a guest in my home and I felt really uncomfortable afterwards.

Just wondered what you think as it’s been bugging me.
Thanks

I’d expect to pay towards a takeaway in friend’s house

I wouldn't have expected her to pay at all. Halving is a but much though, I'd happily have paid 1/3

I would expect to split a takeaway, just as I would a meal in a restaurant.

I wouldn’t expect to pay half but I’d expect to pay for what I ordered.

Were you actually invited for dinner or just still there at dinner time? I'd expect to pay my share of a takeaway yes, if I agreed to getting one.

I wouldn’t pay half if she was ordering for 4 and I was 2.

You expected your friend to pay for a takeaway for you and your child? There is a CF in the story and it isn’t your mate.

I would have added up the amount for the dishes I had ordered and paid that.

Did the “few dishes” that you ordered for you and your daughter total £45? If it didn’t, why on earth didn’t you say something to your friend there and then??

Are you normally a people pleaser? Your friend saw you coming.

Her asking for half is CF territory.
You should just have paid for your meals or about 1/3

I’d pay for what I ordered and towards a delivery charge/tip.

Need more info.

As I'm sure you know.

Pay for what you ordered for you and your DC. You shouldn't have to pay half as she has 3 DC...why should you pay half of their food when you are the guest?

£92 for a takeaway for 2 adults and 4 kids! 😱

Of course you pay for a takeaway! However you should have just paid for your dishes you ordered, not split 50:50

I would have added up my dishes and paid for that.

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In truth , if you agreed to a take away then I think you should be prepared to pay towards it. Many hosts would have paid for all of it but If she had 3 children and you have one , I would have thought you paying 1/4 or a 1/3 would have been fairer. But you cannot legislate for folk.

I would have expected to pay for what I had ordered (and would have ordered with that in mind).

Friend was unreasonable to ask you to subsidise her family’s meal.

If I’ve ever had takeaway at friends I’ve always split half or at least what I’ve ordered. Why would I expect friend to pay? Sounds like a lot of food and money tho!

I was invited for dinner as in she was cooking it and she ordered for herself and her 3 children and she asked me what we wanted so I ordered a few dishes.

I was just a bit shocked as she never said she was going to order a Chinese.

paying for what you ate would have been fine - not for her extra kids though. Giving some cheap plonk with no other gifts would be ok in these circumstances. .

How much would your share of dishes have come to?

Why on earth would you expect her to stump up for the entire takeaway?

Would you expect her to pay the full bill if she had suggested dinner in a restaurant?

I would've worked out how much my share was and paid that.

But yes it's a bit cheeky ordering a takeaway when she invited you round for dinner, I mean what if you didn't have enough money for a takeaway?!