Asked to pay half towards a takeaway in friends home.

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I visited my friends home recently with my 12 year old and she has 3 kids herself and lives in a very nice large home( just for information).I took some gifts for them then early evening she said there was a great Chinese nearby and should we order a takeaway?
Great idea I ordered a few dishes for me and my daughter and she ordered 5 dishes for her and her 3 children.
She then said that’s £92 and just give her £45 .
I was speechless as we were guests in her home and she invited us for dinner and I was scrambling through my purse as I had my cards on me and only just had enough cash to give her.

I would never do that to a guest in my home and I felt really uncomfortable afterwards.

Just wondered what you think as it’s been bugging me.
Thanks

Going by this Grace Hoffman is a pretty poor journalist.

I agree @RisingSunn the whole thing is very outing in the national gutter press

Were you invited round to her house, for lunch / dinner? If so, she should have paid. If you had just dropped in she should have made it clear from the outset that you were to pay towards the Chinese takeaway before the order was made. If you agreed to do so, you should have only had to pay for exactly what you ordered for yourself and your daughter. With friends like that who needs enemies.

Do you think you're going to stay friends with her? Or find nicer friends?

@cc120 - are your questions rhetorical? The Op sets out clearly that she was invited to dinner!

How long friends with her?

Presumably socialised with her many times? How has she been on this occasions?

Ah and there we have it

It’s the mumsnet version of a “friend”

Whereas in RL, friendships tend to mean something rather different that one taking the piss and the other harbouring resentment

I'm not sure what the purpose of the post above is. Not all RL friendships are perfect, many are unrewarding and therefore short-lived. It's inevitable if you have a large or even medium sized network of people you like to spend time with. Longterm solid friendships are great but IME if you rely solely on too few people those relationships can become a pressure cooker.