To re home the kitten

[Holliego]

So, since getting our kitten my DH has been really struggling with his asthma. My Dd and I love him to absolute bits and don’t want to re home him! Please any suggestions? He said he hasn’t stopped sneezing and can feel it in his lungs. I’m actually devastated because obviously DH comes first

Just RFT and seen it's a few days. So no, I wouldn't rehome the kitten yet - see how it's coming in a couple of weeks.

YABU

I couldn't get past you calling your dh a twat.

Why are you still together?
His asthma could kill him, triggered by said cat, and yet you are on here deliberating whether the cat should stay............

Call a divorce lawyer and keep the cat. Your marriage is dead in the water op.

If he is out all of the time and no longer cares about you then he should readily agree to a divorce, then you can keep the cat.

I will re home if he is really struggling he said he feels ok now but knows his body an it is coming.

So he isn't ill but just says he's going to be at a point in the future?

He's jealous of the kitten.

Don't rehome the cat.

He needs to take antihistamines every day. Honestly sounds like he's just whingeing tbh.

We have air purifiers which help a bit

My dh and dd both have cat allergies that can trigger asthma though dd seems to be outgrowing hers.

The house gets hoovered every day, and the cat isn’t allowed to sleep where they sleep.

This has worked well for us. Our cat is 6 now

So really you feel like he's exaggerating for attention. Which he may be.
Is he jealous of the cat?

I'd ask him to
book and see the GP, get an asthma check up to see whether it's impacting him at all.
Use a filter fan in the bedroom
Take his usual inhalers and an antihistamine for a couple of weeks then revisit it.

Make it clear that he'll be the one to tell DD.

Then divorce him. Putting something inn the house that's making him ill is just vicious.

Why would anyone pretend to have a medical issue because they're jealous of a cat?

I didn’t deliberately put the kitten in the house knowing it would make him poorly!!!!!!!

He told me this morning he can breathe fine etc but knows his body and can feel it coming. As soon as he is really struggling I will obviously re home him! I’m not happy with DH no but that is a separate issue!

He isn’t pretending, he genuinely suffers from asthma I know that. I am just saying I will only rehome the kitten if it is a last resort

If a wife posted that her husband had insisted on getting a cat, and she didn't want one and in fact was allergic there would be a chorus of LTB 🤣

Something else you could try is the ProPlan LiveClear food? But it's not cheap so maybe only if you decide to keep DH.

Do dogs produce less dander? We have a dog too

Dh isn’t allergic to dogs and we have two. Just cats and horses. Though he fares better with long haired cats

Like others, I'm allergic to other people's cats but not my own. The first two weeks we had them were hell. I wanted to tear out my own eyeballs and used an entire blue inhaler. After that, it started to ease off until they didn't bother me at all on a day-to-day basis. My allergy towards other people's cats is slightly better when I own cats. When we were between cats I could tell which ones of DD's friends had cats as them (the person not the cat) being in my house triggered a reaction, whereas when we have cats I am only allergic to other people's if I am in direct contact with the cat.

I'm still occasionally mildly triggered by our cats but only if they are very close to me for extended periods of time or if they sleep on my bed.

I'm not allergic to dogs at all. They produce different allergens.

My allergy doesn't come on gradually, like your DH is claiming, saying he can feel it coming. I've never heard of an allergy like that. I can feel a cold or flu which might trigger my asthma coming on but not an allergic reaction.

They're different species!

You can easily be allergic to one and not the other.

I’ve ordered the spray and constantly hoovering. If I see him struggling I will re home. Thanks for all your help guys.

I wasn’t sure if they produced the same that’s all!

Most allergic people develop immunity to their own cats within 3 weeks - I know this from experience. Don't be too hasty about rehoming so soon - give kitty a chance.

Most allergic people develop immunity to their own cats within 3 weeks - I know this from experience. Don't be too hasty about rehoming so soon - give kitty a chance.

In your first post, you said your DH had to be the priority. Everything you’ve posted since then shows that he isn’t and you prefer the kitten.

I wouldn’t go as far as saying I prefer the kitten. DH and I are having relationship issues at the minute, erroneous of the kitten.

my question is, should I persevere? Wait until he is actually struggling?

I would wait.

Tbh, the "feeling it coming on" and "feel it in his lungs" makes it sound like attention-seeking bullshit to me. Of course, everyone's asthma and allergies are different so I might be wrong but I've never in all my life heard of an allergic reaction gradually triggering an asthma attack over the course of days.