To not know what to do with myself during the day

[Asdson2022]

All 3 of my children now attend full time nursery/school. I'm a sahm unable to get a job. So the obvious answer isn't possible.

The issue is i can't commit to anything and i dont want to spend my days cleaning and being alone :(
Any ideas?

How is working for a supermarket late into the night 'doing something for her'???!!

Seriously

Have just seen a couple of mean remarks, please ignore them. Enjoy the silver linings part of your cloud. Do not get guilted into a job, if you can add to your education it will add to your children's education. Seize the opportunity.
Feel free to PM me if you want to talk further.
As my Uncle Bill said. Nils illegitimum Carborundum. Don't let those bastards grind you down.

I really don't get all the horrible replies saying get a job. Even if she could why is it so bad to not want to work ? I personally would love to be at home if I could afford to I would not work. I would spend the day walking with my dog amd making my home nice I would t have a care In the world. Is that so wrong ? We only have o e life why would you spend it working if you do t want to. Horrible people on here

Thank you very much. I will look at that link.
My problem, like the OP, is there are days/weeks I cannot work at all because of DC's needs. I need something I can work on and put away as required which is difficult from an employment POV.
Also I should have said I'm not in the UK.

when i couldnat afford childcare to work i got a book out of the library about how to be a sahm essentially.
i cant remember much about what it said
hopefully you have got advice here

It’s exactly what she has said to me. Some further things she has said to me below:

She gets to not worry about oxygen sats and seizures and solely being responsible for that for a few hours.

She gets to meet people who don’t head tilt and know her as “the disabled kid’s mum”. She gets to meet other people and have conversations not solely based on children’s needs.

She gets to earn some money for herself and take a sense of pride in that.

HTH.

Seriously.

Do you have a local Carers Centre? Ours often runs daytime activities for carers.

I do remember being given advice by a nanny I made friends with when both DC were very young. She said: get out of the house at least once a day, even if it is just to the playpark, and make sure you have a proper conversation with an adult about something adult-related every day. Also, if you have a partner, go out together at least once a week.

It was good advice and i tried to take it.

I'm shocked that you can't find anything to do with your time

.gym
.Read a book
.go for a walk/coffee
.visit family
.learn a new skill
.study

From the OP's first post:

The issue is i can't commit to anything and i dont want to spend my days cleaning and being alone :(

Loneliness is part of what she is trying to address, meeting new people but needing a context which doesn't require fixed time commitments.

She only made four short posts before she felt hounded off, it really doesn't take long to read them.

I'm shocked that you didn't bother to read the OP's updates.

It doesn't matter why you can't work, if you don't have to then you don't have to. Same for volunteering, that usually requires a set time commitment that maybe you can't make for what ever reasons. I assume that you are looking for hobby suggestions? Gardening is very enjoyable and eats up a lot of time. Some people like golf. Or fitness classes. Are there any arts and craft type lessons available near you? Ceramics?